Saturday, March 6, 2021

THE CREATOR'S DESIGN FOR OUR LIFE & HAPPINESS - God has revealed his Plan for us to be able to give meaning & purpose to our lives and in this way to find fulfillment

The title above is hotlinked to "Vivere Canada" home page which reports on the link between human sexuality and a meaningful and happy human existence in this life. In representing the state of affairs regarding sexuality in our society, the truth can be shocking; so be warned, some information is quite graphic. Whenever nature's design is obstructed, there are grave, even mortal, consequences.

There are facts and truths that "sexual libertarians" don't want society or public opinion to know, that even they don't want to know. To sum up those facts - accumulated in different human cultures and societies - we don't need sex to live a full life and be content. To define one's identity on the basis of our sexuality alone is to reduce our human value and dignity. I am a lot more than just my genitalia, and so are you. G.S.

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best human efforts to make sense of our lives - and of our human sexuality in particular - also including the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium. The Church has been accumulating much valuable wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7 
Father Gilles Surprenant, priest & poustinik

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In each case, for the complete article go to the link.

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The next few links offer eloquent testimonies to the incalculable value of human life. Stephanie Gray shows how to enter into a most compassionate dialogue on issues which, for many people, evoke their most painful human experiences. We are called to love others by listening compassionately and taking genuine interest in their stories, because we have much to learn from one another.     G.S.

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In considering abortion as an option, or else before or after trying to understand what might be consequences of having an abortion, it is good to remember that LOVE UNLEASHES LIFE.

Courtroom genetics testimony of Dr. Jerome Lejeune on the wonder of human conception in the Circuit Court for Blount County State of tennessee at Maryville, Tennessee on August 10th, 1989. 


 SEVERAL INFORMATIVE LINKS / LIENS UTILES ET INFORMATIFS

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Everyone wants to succeed. Sadly, we see around us so much failure and heartache... why is that? When we insist on finding our own way alone, we cannot avoid making mistakes, often the same mistakes others have made. It is wise to be willing to learn from the wisdom others have acquired, often painfully and at great cost. Our Church has two millennia of wisdom for life and marriage.    G.S.

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Successful Couples / RĂ©ussir son couple 

👉 http://reussirsoncouple.org/successful-couples.html đŸ‘ˆ

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We are wise to be willing to learn from others, including the Church and her Magisterium teachings, which provide knowledge, context, and depth regarding human intimacy for our "Life Project".  G.S.

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"Living Sexuality" Project / Projet "Sexualité vivante"

👉 http://sexualitevivante.net/living-sexuality.html đŸ‘ˆ

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Human experience accumulates wisdom, and from our collective experience we know for certain that the most effective way to avoid unexpected pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections is to restrict intimate relations to one's life long spouse or simply to abstain from sexual relations altogether. Contrary to widespread disinformation, we don't need sex in order to thrive and experience fulfillment in the meaning and purpose we want to give to our lives. For more information go to: http://sexualitevivante.net/living-sexuality.html

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Next in all conscience we share this information which suffers under a worldwide embargo preventing the deadly truth from getting out. The primary reason is that women who undergo an abortion - either immediately or later - endure such lasting suffering, physical but more often psychological; that they are ashamed or afraid or both to say anything about it. In time, many courageously admit how much they regret having had an abortion. The scandal is that all too often we men have not stood by our women but abandoned them to carry alone the burden of pregnancy, which is intended by our Creator to be carried by the couple in lifelong blessing and great joy for all concerned. So, be warned.  G.S.

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Droit de savoir - Avortement et contraception
Abortion and contraception Right to Know 

👉 http://droitdesavoir2.ca/abortion-and-contraception đŸ‘ˆ


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The media - especially mainstream media - are too often more interested in bad news. One effect is that truly GOOD NEWS remains hidden and often hard to find. Here is some really great news about the support that actually exists out there for women abandoned by their man to carry alone the burden of their pregnancy. The GOOD NEWS is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Check this out!  G.S.

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Pregnancy Support - My Choices / Soutient Grossesse - Mes Choix 


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It is true that carrying an unexpected pregnancy to term and then giving up the baby for adoption is a difficult sacrifice to make. It's hard to let go once you've "bonded" with your baby for nine months. However, for the rest of your life you will know that you have given life! This is much easier to bear for the rest of your life than knowing that you put an end to a life. See this for yourself!  G.S.

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Vivere Adoption Canada Vivere

👉 http://vivereadoptionfr.site/vivere-adoption---welcome.html đŸ‘ˆ

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Our Creator is not a cruel God who abandons his creatures to their own devices. No! God actually cares for us and loves us and, in the Holy Spirit, offers us supernatural gifts for our life journey.  G.S.

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Fruits & Gifts of the Holy Spirit
Fruits et Dons de l'Esprit Saint 

👉 http://fruitsetdons.net/fruits-and-gifts.html đŸ‘ˆ

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Genuine love for others must begin with authentic and true, properly ordered love for one's own life, receiving our life moment by moment from our Creator as the priceless gift that our life is.   G.S.

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SELF-ESTEEM AND ASSERTION: FOUNDATIONS OF LIFE!
ESTIME ET AFFIRMATION DE SOI : FONDATIONS DE LA VIE !

👉 http://estimeetaffirmationdesoi.ca/self-esteem-and-assertion.html đŸ‘ˆ

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Extraterrestrials observing our condom use might rightly conclude that the human species is afraid of its own fertility, and they would be right. Tragically, the facts tell a far scarier story. Selling condoms is a profitable business, the facts threaten the profit margin. Condoms don't deliver the full protection they advertise. The perfect protection from deadly infectious diseases and from unwanted pregnancy is to reserve our fertility for our own spouse for life - before and during marriage.  G.S.

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CONDOM RISKS / RISQUES DU CONDOM

👉 http://condomrisques.org/condom-risks.html đŸ‘ˆ

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The so-called "sexual revolution" of the 1960's messaged women they could enjoy the same "freedom" from responsibility apparently enjoyed by men, but it was a big lie. Men and women become "less manly" and "less feminine" when engaging in senseless and irresponsible sexual activity. Because of the shame involved in abortion, it took decades for women to realize and admit the truth of their suffering because of abortion. Over time, amazing support services developed. Now women can know it is possible to experience healing and to prosper again after an abortion.  G.S.

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POST-ABORTION HEALING RESOURCES IN CANADA
RESSOURCES DE SOUTIEN À LA GUÉRISON
POST-AVORTEMENT AU CANADA

👉 http://guerisonpostavortement.ca/post-abortion-healing.html đŸ‘ˆ

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PREGNANT AND NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO? YOU ARE NOT ALONE!  G.S.

---------------------------------------------------------------- I am pregnant and I am thinking about getting an abortion...   Je suis enceinte et je songe Ă  l'avortement... (La barre de navigation en haut Ă  gauche du centre a un bouton FRANÇAIS n'est pas toujours visible... trouvez-le Ă  tĂątons....) 

👉 https://pregnancysupportservices.org đŸ‘ˆ

WELCOME TO PREGNANCY SUPPORT SERVICES
AND đŸ‘‰ RELATIONSHIPS ED. đŸ‘ˆ
(Site américain en anglais et en espagnol seulement)

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WOMEN ARE TRULY AMAZING! CHECK OUT THESE AMAZING STORIES!  G.S.

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Naissances extraordinaires / Extraordinary Births 

👉 http://sexualitevivante.net/uploads/1/2/7/3/127330543/naissances_extraordinaires_extraordinary_births.pdf đŸ‘ˆ

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Until recently we could go to the Moon and consider going to Mars, but we still knew so little about a woman's body, fertility, and how it all works together. Feminine fertility and vitality remained one of life's great mysteries. Finally, science is catching up and we now understand so much more about how our feminine fertility works and doctors can actually diagnose missing elements and provide them in simple therapies that allow "infertile" women to enjoy their full fertility. Check this out!  G.S.

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NaProTechnology - Medical and Surgical 
Specialty for Women of Procreative Age
(Site américain en anglais seulement)

👉 https://naprotechnology.com đŸ‘ˆ


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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best efforts as human beings to make sense of our lives in general - and of our human sexuality in particular - and to also include the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium; given that the Church has been accumulating the wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7     G.S.

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Thursday, February 11, 2021

"Mommy, Daddy. Please talk to me about love." Parents need to be the first to provide their children with affective formation and sexual education.

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There are facts and truths that "sexual libertarians" don't want society or public opinion to know, that even they don't want to know. To sum up those facts - accumulated in different human cultures and societies - we don't need sex to live a full life and be content. To define one's identity on the basis of our sexuality alone is to reduce our human value and dignity. I am a lot more than just my genitalia, and so are you. G.S.

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best human efforts to make sense of our lives - and of our human sexuality in particular - also including the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium. The Church has been accumulating much valuable wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7 
Father Gilles Surprenant, priest & poustinik

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“Mommy, Daddy. Please, talk to me about love.”

Notes from a conference in French “S’il-vous-plaĂźt, parlez-moi d’amour”given at the Diocese’s offices March 29th, 2017 by InĂšs PĂ©lissiĂ© du Rausas, a mother who has written books on how parents can form their children well at the various stages of their development in ways appropriate to each age to understand and live well their human sexuality. 


InĂšs advocates precocious but progressive education of children with tenderness by their parents in contrast to the intrusion of culture and society which, truthfully, is erroneous, violent, and damaging, all too often ruining or at the very least hurting our children’s innocence and ability to appreciate all the beauty, truth, and goodness of the gift of life entrusted to them by God and their own great dignity and that of others.

As lionesses are so ferocious in defending their young; so too should we be as parents to defend and form our children regarding their vocation, their calling to eternal life, which is at stake, and the spiritual strength God offers us within Marriage and family life. While we value traditional marriage, children are born who receive life and love in non-traditional families or households. We probably all know some near or far, and we love them with all our hearts.

Let us think of our own children, of the children of others, of the poor, and of those who at first view may be thought of as on the margins of society. As we put the well-being of our children first, we need to rediscover or to acquire for the first time our backbone and stand up for our children, for our family, for Marriage, for others, for the poor, for the Church, for humanity, and for God.

With the Holy Spirit we have at hand an infinite variety of new solutions to age old problems created when people – motivated by so many hidden goals driving them – tamper with our children and seek to “play around” with their innocent, vulnerable, and trusting hearts. No one must play around with our children’s hearts!

PRESSURES AND LOBBIES

There are 3 lobbies and “outside interests” putting considerable pressure everywhere and all the time on our children, and particularly on what the marketing strategists call “pre-adolescents”. In reality, there is no such thing as a pre-adolescent unless it is in the interest of someone to target children in the “latency stage” in view of influencing them in advance of becoming adolescents. The latency stage is what children live from the age of 6 until puberty, when in principle all sexual things don’t interest them or are even repugnant to them. In other words, there are interests out there addressing our children in the latency stage as though they were already adolescents, or potential adolescents, or children wanting to become adolescents. These interests threaten to interrupt the safety of the latency stage as they prematurely stimulate the imagination of children and, in so doing, damage their innocence.

Tactic # 1.                  Under the pretext of taking the defense of freedoms / liberties and equality, such as, for example, the fight against AIDS, all manner of misinformation and outright lies are propagated, always with the overhanging threat of severe reprisals upon anyone who might dare to oppose this tactic in real life and time.

Tactic # 2.                  Consider all the frantic activity around pornography – such as with the considerable pressure on parents to provide their young children with an I-Pad, or I-Phone, or Laptop, or their equivalent – to sever the safety ties of young children to their parents and make them free to “roam” and be led astray by any number of “wolves” in sheep’s clothing presented to them in any number of creative and cleverly disguised ways.

All pornographic voices and images and words speak of prostitution – none of them speak of love, not of true love, nor of divine love – but always of pleasure, greed, power, and domination. Solicitation to draw children into various forms of prostitution of their bodies as pleasure objects and to treat others not as persons but as pleasure objects often takes violent forms but is always aggressive with dangerous consequences.                             The person of the child is hurt, damaged, within their very self, but they also become dangerous for others by being conditioned to believe that they are incapable of mastering or restraining their own impulses.

SOLUTION                   We must do all we can to protect our children against these attacks and form them to learn to avoid such animal and predatory behaviors as are portrayed and promoted by pornography in all its forms. What is hopeful is that with children we can always repair any damage, and they can always learn and grow. With a child we can always love and begin afresh.

Tactic # 3.                  We have all become painfully aware of and familiar with the latest new ideology which aggressively seeks to impose on young and vulnerable children and adolescents and even young adults a burden to select their own gender, as if our gender were an “Ă  la carte” activity for human beings. Gender ideology negates human sex and gender by replacing male and female with homosexual and heterosexual, M & F with H & H.                                                This new ideology seeks to replace the individuality and complementarity of our human nature as designed by God with pleonasm – that is, with what is the same as, with redundancy – favoring what is the same as me, rejecting what is different from me. It is the destruction of the richness of complementarity for the sake of the identical.

SOLUTION                   We must avoid using any other terms than those given to us by God – male and female – and simply say that I am woman, or I am man, girl or boy. The term “heterosexual” was coined by a German who wanted to promote homosexual activity in the 18th/19th century. He used from the Greek “heteros” which means different and “sexue” or in Latin “sexus” which means separate or different. In other words, the term is redundant, saying the same thing twice. It’s a clever trick to annihilate the final purpose of our human sexuality – which is life and union for life and stability in Marriage and family life – and replace it with individuals seeking after their own pleasure.                      In the Creator’s plan for our happiness, the finality of our human sexuality is union and fecundity, life and family. These other “interests” want to promote “sex ed” – that is, education to sexual practices that it is claimed “everyone wants” and how to practice them providing safety and protection from sexually transmitted infections and diseases. However, there is never any question or concern in “sex ed” to protect the person in all that we are and can be.                        Such “sex ed” ignores and tramples the meaning and beauty of the human body as well as the body’s union to relationship, marriage, children, and family, and the truth that we all want to be loved. All the “dirty” content damages the child’s heart by presenting a perversion of human sexuality. The solution is to reach the child’s heart by treating with the truth, love, beauty, and life, which is good news, and “different from what you have seen”, what is presented out there in the world, in culture, and in the various media of mass and social communication.

SUMMARY         The pre-adolescent or rather the child in the latency and innocent stage is “beaten up or mugged” by publicity which treats him like an adolescent when he isn’t one yet.

First we have to present love as beautiful before we can treat what is dirty, false, violent, exploitative, abusive, etc. We only have to look at video clips that turn various scenarios into pornography. Porn is to be avoided by everyone in all of its forms, because this garbage expresses itself in the heart and hardens it. The world of “hot” folks is actually glacial… cold… without real love which builds the other up without exploiting him or her.

7 to 8 years old is the age of reason which introduces a new form of stability for the child who leaves infancy behind.

6 or 7 to 12 is the latency period during which a form of modesty awakens and manifests itself in different ways. From now on the child wants to bathe alone, now having a greater awareness of himself, of his body. As a result the boy displays a kind of repugnance for everything sexual and even for marks of affection for members of the opposite sex.

The young girl for her part may begin to keep an intimate diary which must be protected from her brothers.

In any case parents must gently open their child to others during this period during which both girls and boys are inclined to close in on themselves.

In the west for the past 100 years puberty has been advancing and showing itself younger; without doubt due to pollution and the increased presence of estrogen in the environment due to the pill and other sources which end up in the waters and the soils and, as a result, in the food chain.

THE CHILD IN THE LATENCY STAGE

Paradox # 1.                       The child is really connected but very alone. He has a great need to be loved. Parents should ask themselves, “Does my child know that I love him?” Even in the culture we see evidence of this unavoidable truth as, for example, in the “Harry Potter” series of novels we see from beginning to end the conviction that “evil can do nothing against the sacrificial love of a mother.”

Paradox # 2.                       Our children need to be absolutely loved by their parents, no matter the conditions. In addition there is the even greater good that they are wanted and loved by God. Let’s do what we must so that they can immerse themselves and bathe in the love of God.

Paradox # 3.                       During this latency stage the child puts forward “me by myself” but for all that we continue to deliberately accompany, congratulate, and surround him with our love, perhaps a little more discretely, but just as truly and personally, despite the new “distance”.

Paradox # 4.                       External autonomy versus interior liberty – The child now becomes more competent in getting around and doing things; but going about taking care of his own needs by himself requires maturity, more than he is likely to have at this age. His incomplete maturity requires a degree of support that varies from one child to another. Parents need to observe and realize that during this latency stage the child cannot yet be really mature or entirely autonomous, despite his declarations, demands, or protests.                                                                                                     Here lies the great challenge for the parent who is too busy and tired: to recharge his strength and energy for the good of the child in his suffering, pain, and shadows. The challenge is all the greater for the parent still living with his own sufferings, pain, and shadows; which he must manage privately in order to continue providing the emotional education of the child. This emotional education of the child becomes all the more difficult in view of the child’s own interior states. At this level, what the parent is going through can make him more compassionate to the states through which his child is passing, and this same compassion can allow the parent to sufficiently forget himself to attend to his child’s needs.                                                                                                             In the matter of emotional education in his human nature and sexuality, the child has the right to see, to hear, and to know his parents’ love story, and thus, his origins. It doesn’t matter if one of the parents and spouses is no longer around. The remaining parent must put aside all recrimination he may feel against his ex- spouse; because the child has both the right and the need to know about his origins in the love that his parents had for one another, and hence, for him their child.

EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL EDUCATION OF CHILDREN BEFORE ADOLESCENCE

The emotional and sexual education of our children needs to happen before they enter into adolescence, and it can begin as soon as they ask questions that remotely or closely touch all that has to do with their origin or sexuality. This education of the child by their parent must always be done with great tenderness and affection; for this is the most faithful expression of the truth about love which gives life not only at the beginning but which continues to give life all during life. Given the human and cultural situation in which we currently live, parents need reference points in order to effectively embark on the emotional and sexual education of their children.

Reference point # 1.                        Human love is lived in the world of human persons. Human beings are not things, not animals, not machines, not toys, but persons. We, human beings, we are a living network of body, soul, spirit, mind, and heart. So we’re not talking about a model of animal instinct as in wild or domesticated beasts. We are not human beasts, but rather human persons. This is why we absolutely reject all forms of pornography, of prostitution, or of perverted sexuality which, in every case, showcases instinctual, impulsive, and therefore, animal behaviors and activities.  

Reference point # 2.                        Your body – is youit is not a thing which belongs to you, but you are your body at the same time that you are also your soul, your spirit, your mind, and your heart, which all together form the person that you are. So what your body lives, you live it too. That is why all behaviours which deform the human person and human sexuality by whatever pornographic expression – such as submission to concupiscence or instinctive behaviours such as fellatio and others – are a violence against and a disruption of your dignity.                                                       Serial or repeated sexual relations harden the heart which becomes incapable of truly loving or being loved; which brings deep suffering of isolation and interior cold. Having recourse to pornography causes the person with a hard heart no longer to believe in real love or even in life. Such a person may either be swallowed up in the impulse to suicide or may seek an escape in the artificial option of “no sex” or refusing to identify with any gender: “I am neither male nor female, neither man nor woman”.

Reference point # 3.                        Faced with all this pollution of ideas, of propaganda, and of interior states, what do we say to our children? “I am made to love… I have a heart.” The parent can and must soak the heart of their child in love and the child will himself or herself recognize “garbage” assertions. In the same way that one must wax well with many repetitions a piece of furniture made from high quality wood to protect it from stains; so must parents “wax well” their children’s hearts, spirits, minds, and souls. The “layers” of wax are so many intimate moments of complicity with their child as they entertain all sorts of assertions about love – about their parents’ love but also about God’s love – of which he, the child, is the product and of which he continues to be the object, and of which he is also now becoming the subject, capable of loving in his turn in a disinterested fashion with a sacrificial love; ever seeking to serve the good of the other, the beloved.

Creative use of language to convey the profound beauty and meaning of our affections and human sexuality

The mommy’s tummy, the mommy’s uterus is a sanctuary of life and safe cradle for the baby right next to the mommy’s heart where the baby hears his mommy’s heart, and together they make the music of two hearts beating together.

How will the baby come out of mommy’s tummy? The baby will come out by a little path reserved for life and for love, reserved for the baby to live, and also reserved for love and therefore for the daddy.

The vagina of the mommy is made only for life and for love.

The anus is for something else, to let the body get rid of garbage.

The channel for pee is also for getting rid of garbage, even if it seems to be the same channel for two different things, it is only part of it which is shared, but by only one thing at a time.

How did the baby get into mommy’s tummy?

Path of love # 1.            The baby entered into mommy’s tummy by the same special path that the baby will take to come out on his birthday. It is the little path reserved for life and for love, for the heart.

Path of love # 2.            Daddy and Mommy love each other and tell each other, but it isn’t enough – just like when you are glad to see me and give me a hug – so Daddy and Mommy give each other a special hug.

Path of love # 3.            When the heart of the daddy and the mommy are full of love; then the daddy’s heart is also full of love and he is able to give all his love to the mommy. The Daddy’s rod gently lifts up and is able to enter into the mommy’s path which is reserved for life and for love.

Path of love # 4.            Then there is a crowning of their love… there is great joy in their united hearts and bodies, and it is from this love that the child begins to exist in the mommy’s tummy.

ADOLESCENTS

The education of our children sits squarely in our right and our duty to think and to speak. Various ideologies try to intimidate us and reduce us to silence, but it is more essentially our right and our duty to speak with precision to our children who, for their part, have both the right and the need to know the whole truth about their life and their origin, their human nature, and their human sexuality. Adolescents now observe the dichotomy among the various voices demanding their attention and allegiance; so we must approach them with a much more precise language.

Approach # 1.                   Confronted by all the voices speaking of human sexuality, with adolescents we need to talk all the more precisely, because they have a greater need to understand more concretely and specifically.

Approach # 2.                   We must also speak to them of the interior battle and of self mastery; that as human persons we have a great capacity for self-control, but we must exercise it, and that our self mastery grows with time and practice (just as sin and irresponsibility also grow stronger), and that the love of God is the source of our interior strength. It is God who loves us first and who draws us to love Him, to love others, and to love ourselves.

Approach # 3.                   It is good and necessary for us to elicit in the child – and eventually the adolescent – admiration for the perfection of love. Loving is like having a good voice. To sing well one must see and know the partition well. The lyrics and notes of the partition are: respect for the other, fidelity to the other, tenderness towards the other, and paying attention to the expectations of the other.

Approach # 4.                   Homophilia – at the beginning of adolescence youth find reassurance in their peers and can feel all kinds of emotions towards their peers, but there is nothing sexual about it. However, in our time we bear the burden of a culture which has been manipulated for decades by those with strategic agendas to change society’s attitudes. This culture tries to sexualize the other. Unfortunately, this sexualization of the other makes it very difficult to engage in any ordinary, true, and disinterested friendship without having any sexual overtones.

Approach # 5.                   One must certainly not listen to voices that advocate “trying everything” in terms of sexual activity, because we have a “body memory” which even after a single act colors everything that follows. That is why outside of the loving relationship of one man and one woman in a committed, permanent, exclusive, and faithful union, such as in marriage, all sexual activity conditions the human heart on a path of egoism and the quest for personal pleasure; which hardens the human heart and makes true love all the more difficult.

Approach # 6.                   A youth can become aware of a “dragger” or homosexual predator trying to impose on him or her. This youth must understand – this is absolutely essential – that “feeling” something is not “consenting”. The youth, like any human person, remains ever free to ask himself, “What do I want?” and “Is this good or not?” the “No!” of which I am capable in my conscience protects me in order to one day be able to say a beautiful “Yes!” to the person that I will choose to love and who will love me in return.

Approach # 7.                   The young adolescent woman like the young adult woman can find herself temporarily in the condition of “homo femini” or fear of male sexuality because of its violent portrayal in pornography. She must learn from her parents that it isn’t really like that in a loving relationship between human persons.

Parents, enjoy many gratuitous moments sitting down face to face with your child. See the relationship of befriending when the fox meets the little prince. We must approach gently, and that takes time. For boys, it’s better by the father; but if not, the mother must do it. For example, the mother can say to him, “Your father and I want to tell you…”

THE SPIRITUAL LIFE OF CHILDREN

Original sin consists in man and woman turning away from their relationship with God the Creator to prefer making up their own life, their own reality, their own universe, their own definition of human life and of good and evil. There is nothing more painful in our human condition than this isolation from God, who is not only our origin in life and in love but also our final destiny for eternal life and perfection of love and communion.

That is why it is essential for parents to introduce their child to God. However, we cannot give what we do not already possess. Still, with God, it is never too late. So, the simple realization by parents that there is somewhere within them some sort of desire to give their children what is best can already open within them the gateway to all that is “beyond”. These are the opportunities in real time, in the present moment, to give their children the “sacraments” or knowledge of God, or prayer, or spirituality, or faith. The Holy Spirit is ever present and eager to supply our weakness and guide us.

The heart of the Judeo-Christian Tradition is clearly that the God who is good and loving, the Creator of the Universe, wants to have a relationship of friendship and love with every human person. God, who is infinitely rich, wants to give us everything, but all the obstacles that exist are within us… the “gates” within us are not always open, or else they are not always open wide. God our Creator shows such an extreme respect for our freedom that God seems to us to be absent or silent. This impression is false, because as soon as we open ourselves to God, the Holy Three in One are right here.

BAPTISMAt Baptism God the Holy Trinity engenders within the human person a “family relationship” of adoption introducing the person – even a newborn baby – into the heart of the relationship of communion already existing from all eternity and which “defines” the divine being we call God and whose nature Jesus has revealed as a “communion of divine persons in a single divine being”. The life that exists in God in perfect love and perfect harmony begins to “flow” or “vibrate” in us, and we begin to “live in God”. As for everything else regarding our human life on Earth, this new life “in God” must be cultivated, first by our parents and godparents, but gradually by the free and motivated participation of the child himself or herself. In time, the presence and love of God can be experienced as a “spiritual fire” within.

CONFIRMATIONWhether it is the day after its birth or at 11 / 12 years old, at its confirmation or chrismation the child receives a new “effusion” or “outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God” as the apostles and 100 or so other disciples received while they were gathered around the Mother of Jesus in the Upper Room on the day of Pentecost. The Holy Spirit is ever at work to infuse his gifts: piety for greater respect for the works of God, especially man and woman, girl / boy; and all the other spiritual gifts for the person and the charisms for the good of others and the Church. Parents can / must help their child to see himself or herself as loved by God and that they receive themselves from God in love. Their gender – female or male / woman or man – was given to them at their conception and will ever manifest itself and develop.

HOLY COMMUNIONas the mother gives of her blood / milk in nursing her baby at the maternal breast, so does Jesus – risen from the dead and Son of God – give of himself as spiritual food to communicants, giving us in Holy Communion a veritable “transfusion” of the divine life He possesses with his Father and the Holy Spirit. Our sharing in the divine life of love which is in God and in which we are initiated through Baptism is in a continual process of development and not yet “permanent” on Earth, and it will only be permanent in Heaven when we will have accomplished our life and mission.

ANOINTING OF THE SICKAs He did in Palestine, Jesus continues to heal the sick and wounded while forgiving sins and driving out evil spirits who at various times torment the baptised. Sometimes physically healing and other times not, at all times God manifests his sovereign divine will; our Creator and Redeemer knows what we need most in view of our eternal destiny, and often what God wants to give us may not be what we want or ask. We need to trust in God.

PENANCE – RECONCILIATIONJesus allows us to meet Him face to face as He did when He walked the Earth through the representatives He gives himself and whom He sends us in the persons of his priests (HOLY ORDERS).

MARRIAGETo those who believe in Him and who put their trust in Him Jesus vouches that their love will reflect his faithful and sacrificial love for his Church, his Beloved, the body of all his assembled faithful disciples. When couples – both the man and the woman – practice putting their faith in God and make room for him in their personal lives and also in their couple; then their Marriage becomes truly sacramental. Christ manifests his love for the woman through her husband, and for the man through his wife. In their couple, their love becomes a true reflection of the Holy Trinity.

P.S.: Genesis portrays God’s creation of humans as man and woman in original innocence, with an amazing capacity for authentic friendship and selfless, self-sacrificial love. The enemy of humanity seeks to “sexualize” our capacity for friendship in order to reduce us to slavery and deprive us of the liberty of the children of God. Sin divided us into man or woman. Patriarchy is domination by man. Feminism reduces us to neither man nor woman. Gender ideology seeks to neutralize our innate human gender as woman or man by replacing our identity with the illusion of a “choice”. For its part, the “gay” culture and homosexual “lobby” prey on young children before puberty and young adolescents who are likely to be experiencing temporary “Homophilia” as they develop, in a deliberate strategy to impose their ideology on them precisely when they are most vulnerable. Their objective is to have the young “fall” and identify themselves as “gay” or “lesbian” and, reducing them to sexual activity, deny and abandon their great dignity as girl or boy, woman or man, in accord with the gender with which they were endowed at their conception. The good news is that Jesus Christ our Lord restores lost innocence and our capacity for the reciprocal gift of self for which our gender as man or woman empowers us, God’s gift to enable us to live our human life and love in the image and likeness of God the Holy Trinity.

These notes were taken from a conference given March 29th, 2017 at the offices of the Archdiocese of Montreal by InÚs Pélissié du Rausas with added thoughts by me. He book containing a much more complete and detailed explanation of her instructions to parents is entitled:

“S’il te plait, parle-moi de l’amour ! »


It is available from Amazon in France at THIS LINK or at Amazon.ca at THIS LINK

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best efforts as human beings to make sense of our lives in general - and of our human sexuality in particular - and to also include the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium; given that the Church has been accumulating the wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7     G.S.

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" Maman, Papa. S'il te plaĂźt, parlez-moi de l'amour ! " - Les parents se doivent d'ĂȘtre les premiers Ă  donner Ă  leurs enfants une formation affective et une Ă©ducation sexuelle.

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There are facts and truths that "sexual libertarians" don't want society or public opinion to know, that even they don't want to know. To sum up those facts - accumulated in different human cultures and societies - we don't need sex to live a full life and be content. To define one's identity on the basis of our sexuality alone is to reduce our human value and dignity. I am a lot more than just my genitalia, and so are you. G.S.

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best human efforts to make sense of our lives - and of our human sexuality in particular - also including the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium. The Church has been accumulating much valuable wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7 
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« Maman, Papa. S’il te plaĂźt, parlez-moi de l’amour ! »

Notes prises à la conférence donnée aux bureaux du DiocÚse le 29 mars, 2017 par InÚs Pélissié du Rausas, une maman qui a écrit des livres pour partager avec les parents comment ils peuvent former leurs enfants aux diverses étapes de leur développement de façon appropriée à chaque étape pour bien comprendre et vivre leur sexualité humaine.


InĂšs prĂ©conise l’Ă©ducation prĂ©coce mais progressive et avec tendresse de leurs enfants par les parents en contraste avec l’intrusivitĂ© d’une culture et d’une sociĂ©tĂ© qui, Ă  vrai dire, sont dans l’erreur, violentes, et trop souvent dommageables  Ă  l’Ă©gard des enfants en blessant leur innocence et leur habilitĂ© d’apprĂ©cier toute la beautĂ©, la vĂ©ritĂ©, et la bontĂ© du don de vie que leur confie le Bon Dieu, aussi bien que leur propre grande dignitĂ© et celle des autres.

Les lionnes sont fĂ©roces Ă  la dĂ©fense de leurs lionceaux ; tout autant devons-nous l’ĂȘtre Ă  la dĂ©fense de nos enfants et pour les former concernant leur vocation, leur appel Ă  la vie Ă©ternelle qui est l’enjeu, ainsi que la force spirituelle que le Bon Dieu nous offre par le Mariage et la vie en famille. Aussi, bien que nous valorisons le mariage traditionnel, il reste que des enfants voient le jour et reçoivent la vie et l'amour dans des familles ou des maisonnĂ©es non traditionnelles. Nous en connaissons probablement tous de prĂšs ou de loin, et nous les aimons de tout notre cƓur. 

Pensons donc Ă  nos propres enfants, aux enfants des autres, des pauvres, ou des gens qui, Ă  premiĂšre vue, pourraient ĂȘtre considĂ©rĂ©s d’un certain point de vue comme "en marge" de la sociĂ©tĂ©. En mettant de l'avant le bien de nos jeunes, nous devons reprendre ou acquĂ©rir notre colonne vertĂ©brale et nous lever debout pour nos enfants, pour notre famille, pour le Mariage, pour les autres, ainsi que pour les pauvres, pour l’Église, pour l’humanitĂ©, et pour Dieu.

Avec l’Esprit Saint nous avons Ă  la portĂ©e de la main toute une variĂ©tĂ© infinie de nouvelles solutions aux vieux problĂšmes crĂ©Ă©s quand ceux ou celles qui, motivĂ©s par des objectifs cachĂ©s et Ă©goĂŻstes, veulent s’en prendre Ă  nos enfants. Il ne faut pas jouer avec le cƓur de nos enfants ; car leur cƓur est prĂ©cieux !

PRESSIONS ET « LOBBIES »

Il y a 3 « lobbies » ou « tierces intĂ©rĂȘts » qui mettent Ă©normĂ©ment de pression partout et en tout temps sur nos enfants, ceux que les agents de marketing dĂ©signent comme « prĂ©adolescents ». En rĂ©alitĂ© il n’y a pas de prĂ©adolescents sinon qu’il s’agisse de ceux qui s’intĂ©ressent Ă  cibler les enfants en « Ă©tape de latence » en vue de les influencer avant qu’ils ne deviennent adolescents. La pĂ©riode de latence est celle que vivent les enfants de 6 ans Ă  la pubertĂ©, durant laquelle en principe toute chose sexuelle ne les intĂ©resse point ou leur rĂ©pugne. En d’autres termes, il y a autour de nous des intĂ©rĂȘts qui s’adressent Ă  nos enfants en pĂ©riode de latence comme s’ils Ă©taient dĂ©jĂ  adolescents, ou de potentiels adolescents, ou des enfants qui on hĂąte de devenir adolescents. Ces intĂ©rĂȘts menacent d’interrompre la sĂ©curitĂ© de l’Ă©tape de latence en stimulant de façon prĂ©maturĂ©e l’imagination des enfants et d’endommager leur innocence.

Tactique # 1.                      Sous prĂ©texte de prendre la dĂ©fense des libertĂ©s et de l’Ă©galitĂ© – comme par exemple dans le cas de la lutte contre le CIDA, on fait la propagande de toutes sortes de fausse information ou mĂȘme de mensonges, tout en menaçant de sĂ©vĂšres reprĂ©sailles tous ceux qui oseraient s’y opposer en temps rĂ©el.

Tactique # 2.                      ConsidĂ©rez pour un instant toute l’activitĂ© effrĂ©nĂ©e autour de la pornographie – comme toute la pression sur les parents  de donner Ă  leurs jeunes enfants un I-Pad, ou I-Phone, ou Portable, ou l’Ă©quivalent – afin de couper les liens de protection dont jouissent les jeunes enfants de la part de leurs parents – pour les entraĂźner Ă  « fureter » et se voir entraĂźnĂ©s par toutes sortes de « loups » en peau de brebis qui leur sont ainsi prĂ©sentĂ©s par une infinitĂ© de ruses camouflĂ©es par autant de stratĂ©gies crĂ©atrices et dĂ©libĂ©rĂ©es.                 Toutes les voix, les images, et les paroles pornographiques parlent de et reprĂ©sentent la prostitution – aucunes d’entre elles ne parlent d’amour, de l’amour vrai, ni de l’amour divin – mais toujours de plaisir, de la convoitise, de la puissance, et de la domination. On sollicite nos enfants pour les entraĂźner par toutes sortes de maniĂšres de prostituer leur corps comme objet de plaisir et de traiter ainsi les autres comme objets de plaisir. Ces attaques sont souvent violentes, mais toujours agressives avec de graves consĂ©quences.                                          C’est la personne de l’enfant qui est blessĂ©e, endommagĂ©e, au-dedans d’eux-mĂȘmes, mais en plus ils deviennent dangereux pour autrui en se faisant conditionner Ă  croire qu’ils sont incapables de se maĂźtriser ou de restreindre leurs impulsions.

SOLUTION           Nous devons faire tout notre possible pour protĂ©ger nos enfants contre ces attaques et les former Ă  apprendre Ă  Ă©viter tout comportement animal ou de prĂ©dateur comme ceux que les artisans de la pornographie reprĂ©sentent et dont en fait la promotion la pornographie sous toutes ses formes. Ce qui nous porte Ă  espĂ©rer c’est qu’avec les enfants on peut toujours rĂ©parer, Ă©voluer ; car ils sont toujours prĂȘts Ă  apprendre. Avec un enfant on peut toujours aimer et recommencer.

Tactique # 3.                      Nous sommes tous peinĂ©s de prendre conscience de cette nouvelle idĂ©ologie qui cherche Ă  s’imposer agressivement aux jeunes enfants vulnĂ©rables, aux adolescents, et mĂȘme aux jeunes adultes - leur mettant Ă  charge le fardeau de sĂ©lectionner leur propre genre, comme si notre genre Ă©tait pour les ĂȘtres humains une activitĂ© « Ă  la carte ». L’idĂ©ologie du genre fait la nĂ©gation du sexe et du genre en remplaçant mĂąle et femelle par homosexuel et hĂ©tĂ©rosexuel, M & F par H & H. 
            Cette nouvelle idĂ©ologie cherche Ă  remplacer l’individualitĂ© et la complĂ©mentaritĂ© de notre nature humaine – telle que le CrĂ©ateur l’a conçue – par un plĂ©onasme, c’est-Ă -dire, par une redondance, pour ainsi favoriser ce qui est identique tout en rejetant ce qui est diffĂ©rent de moi. Il s’agit de dĂ©truire la richesse de ce qui est complĂ©mentaire pour se contenter de ce qui est identique.

SOLUTION           Il nous faut Ă©viter d’utiliser tout terme autre que ceux qui nous ont Ă©tĂ© donnĂ©s par Dieu – mĂąle et femelle – et dire tout simplement que je suis femme, ou je suis homme, fille ou garçon. Le terme « hĂ©tĂ©rosexuel » fut forgĂ© par un allemand au 18e/19e siĂšcle qui voulait promouvoir l’activitĂ© homosexuelle. Il utilisa du grec « hĂ©tĂ©ros » qui veut dire diffĂ©rent et « sexue » ou du latin « sexus » qui veut dire sĂ©parĂ© ou diffĂ©rent. Autrement dit, le terme est redondant, disant la mĂȘme chose deux fois. VoilĂ  une ruse pour dĂ©truire la finalitĂ© de notre sexualitĂ© humaine – qui est la vie et l’union pour la vie et la stabilitĂ© dans le mariage et la vie en famille – afin de la remplacer par des individus en quĂȘte de leur propre plaisir.        Le CrĂ©ateur a un plan pour notre bonheur, selon lequel la finalitĂ© de notre sexualitĂ© humaine est l’union et la fĂ©conditĂ©, la vie et la famille. Ces autres « intĂ©rĂȘts » veulent promouvoir « l’Ă©duc sex » - c’est-Ă -dire l’Ă©ducation aux pratiques sexuelles qu’on prĂ©tend que « tout le monde veut » et aussi comment les pratiquer Ă  condition d’ĂȘtre protĂ©gĂ©s des diverses infections et maladies transmises sexuellement. Cependant, pour ces intĂ©rĂȘts il n’est jamais question ni souci en « Ă©duc sex » de protĂ©ger la personne de l'enfant en tout ce qu'il est et tout ce qu'il peut devenir.                                     Tous ces projets « d’Ă©duc sex » ignorent et mĂ©prisent tout le sens et la beautĂ© du corps humain ainsi que l’union du corps Ă  la relation, au mariage, aux enfants, Ă  la famille, et en fin de compte, Ă  la vĂ©ritĂ© que nous voulons tous ĂȘtre aimĂ©s. Tous ces contenus « sales » endommagent le cƓur de l’enfant en lui prĂ©sentant une perversion ou rĂ©duction de la sexualitĂ© humaine. La solution est de rejoindre le cƓur de l’enfant en traitant de l’amour, de la beautĂ©, et de la bontĂ© de la vie comme une bonne nouvelle. Il s’agit donc « d’autre chose que ce que tu as vu ou entendu », diffĂ©rent de ce qui est prĂ©sentĂ© partout – surtout en porno – dans la culture, et par les moyens de communication sociale et de masse.

SOMMAIRE        Le « prĂ©adolescent » ou plutĂŽt l’enfant en pĂ©riode de latence et d’innocence subi un « matraquage » de la part de la publicitĂ© qui le traite comme un adolescent quand il ne l’est pas encore.

Il faut d’bord prĂ©senter l’amour qui est beau avant de traiter ce qui est sale, faux, violent, etc. On n’a qu’Ă  voir les clips qui font la pornification des scĂ©narios. La pornographie sous toutes ses formes est Ă  Ă©viter pour tous ; car ces dĂ©chets s’exprime dans le cƓur et l’endurcissent. L’univers des gens « hot » est glacial… froid… sans amour vĂ©ritable qui Ă©difie l’autre sans l’utiliser ni l’exploiter.

7 Ă  8 ans est l’Ăąge de la raison qui introduit une nouvelle forme de stabilitĂ© pour l’enfant qui quitte le « bas Ăąge ».

6 ou 7 Ă  12 est donc la pĂ©riode de latence oĂč une pudeur s’Ă©veille et se manifeste de diverses façons. DĂ©sormais l’enfant veut prendre son bain tout seul alors qu’il a maintenant une plus grande conscience de soi, de son corps. Par consĂ©quent le garçon manifeste une sorte de rĂ©pugnance pour toute chose sexuelle et mĂȘme pour toute marque d’affection avec les membres de l’autre genre.

La jeune fille pour sa part peut se mettre Ă  tenir un journal intime qu’il faut Ă  tout prix protĂ©ger de ses frĂšres.

En tous les cas les parents doivent doucement ouvrir leur enfant aux autres durant cette période durant laquelle tant les garçons que les filles tendent à se replier sur soi.

In occident depuis 100 ans la pubertĂ© s’est avancĂ©e et se manifeste plus jeune ; sans doute Ă  cause de la pollution et aussi Ă  la prĂ©sence accrue de l’estrogĂšne dans l’environnement Ă  cause de la pilule et d’autres sources qui finissent par se retrouver dans les eaux et les sols, et par consĂ©quent, dans les aliments.

L’ENFANT EN PÉRIODE DE LATENCE

Paradoxe # 1.                    L’enfant est trĂšs branchĂ© mais trĂšs seul. Il a grand besoin d’ĂȘtre aimĂ©. Le parent doit se poser la question, « Mon enfant, est-il sĂ»r que je l’aime ? » Voyez dans la culture cette vĂ©ritĂ© incontournable, comme par exemple, dans la sĂ©rie de romans « Harry Potter » oĂč il y a cette conviction d’un bout Ă  l’autre que « le mal ne peut rien contre l’amour sacrificiel d’une mĂšre ».                                                                                                                       Nos enfants ont besoin d’ĂȘtre absolument aimĂ©s de leurs parents peu importe les conditions. Par surcroĂźt il y a ce plus grand bien qu’ils sont voulus et aimĂ©s par Dieu. Faisons donc en sorte qu’ils puissent se trouver immergĂ©s et ainsi baigner dans l’amour de Dieu.

Paradoxe # 2.                    Durant cette pĂ©riode de latence l’enfant se manifeste comme « moi tout seul » mais pour autant en tant que parent on continue trĂšs dĂ©libĂ©rĂ©ment d’accompagner, de fĂ©liciter, et d’entourer de notre amour dĂ©sormais un peu plus discret peut-ĂȘtre mais tout aussi vrai et proche, malgrĂ© une nouvelle « distance ».

Paradoxe # 3.                    L’autonomie extĂ©rieure versus la libertĂ© intĂ©rieure – L’enfant devient plus compĂ©tent Ă  se mouvoir et pour faire des choses, mais pour s’orienter par lui-mĂȘme pour son besoin il requiert la maturitĂ©, plus qu’il en a probablement encore Ă  cet Ăąge. Son degrĂ© de besoin d’appui en raison de sa maturitĂ© incomplĂšte varie beaucoup d’un enfant Ă  l’autre, mais les parents doivent se rendre Ă  l’Ă©vidence que durant cette pĂ©riode de latence l’enfant ne peut pas encore ĂȘtre vraiment mature et entiĂšrement autonome.                                                    VoilĂ  le grand dĂ©fi pour le parent trop occupĂ© et fatiguĂ© ; car il faut recharger ses forces et son Ă©nergie en vue du bien ĂȘtre de l’enfant en ses souffrances, en ses douleurs, en ses ombres. Autant plus grand est le dĂ©fi pour le parent qui vie toujours ses propres souffrances, douleurs, et ombres, qu’il doit gĂ©rer en privĂ© afin de continuer de pourvoir Ă  l’Ă©ducation affective de l’enfant. Cette Ă©ducation affective de l’enfant devient d’autant plus difficile en raison des Ă©tats intĂ©rieurs de l’enfant lui-mĂȘme. A ce niveau, ce que vie le parent peut le rendre plus compatissant aux Ă©tats que vie son enfant et cette mĂȘme compassion peut lui permettre de s’oublier suffisamment pour voir aux besoins de son enfant.                                                                                                                            En matiĂšre d’Ă©ducation affective Ă  sa nature humaine et Ă  sa sexualitĂ© humaine, l’enfant a droit de voir et entendre et connaĂźtre l’histoire d’amour de ses parents, et donc, de ses origines. Peu importe si l’un des parents et Ă©poux n’est plus dans le dĂ©cor. Le parent qui reste doit mettre en veilleuse toute rĂ©crimination qu’il pourrait avoir contre son ex-conjoint ; parce que l’enfant a droit et a besoin de connaĂźtre ses origines dans l’amour qu’avaient ses parents l’un pour l’autre, et donc, pour lui leur enfant.

L’ÉDUCATION AFFECTIVE ET SEXUELLE DES ENFANTS AVANT L’ADOLESCENCE

L’Ă©ducation affective et sexuelle de nos enfants doit se faire avant leur entrĂ©e en adolescence, et peut se faire dĂšs que l’enfant pose des questions de prĂšs ou de loin concernant tout ce qui touche ses origines ou la sexualitĂ©. Cette Ă©ducation par le parent de son enfant doit toujours se faire avec grande tendresse et affection ; car voilĂ  l’expression la plus juste de la vĂ©ritĂ© de l’amour qui donne la vie non seulement dĂšs ses origines mais qui continue Ă  donner la vie toute la vie durant. Compte tenu de la situation humaine et culturelle dans laquelle nous vivons, les parents ont besoin de points de repĂšre pour bien s’avancer dans l’Ă©ducation affective et sexuelle de leurs enfants.

Point de repĂšre # 1. L’amour humain se vit dans le monde des personnes humaines. Ce ne sont pas des choses, pas des animaux, pas des engins, pas des enjeux, mais des personnes. Nous, les personnes humaines, nous sommes un ensemble vivant de corps, d’Ăąme, d’esprit, de pensĂ©e, et de cƓur. Donc, nous ne parlons pas d’un modĂšle d’instinct animal comme pour les bĂȘtes soit sauvages soit domestiquĂ©es. Nous ne sommes pas des bĂȘtes humaines, mais nous somme des personnes humaines. Donc, il nous faut absolument Ă©carter toute forme de pornographie, de prostitution, ou de perversion de la sexualitĂ© qui, dans tous les cas, prĂ©conise des comportements et des activitĂ©s instinctives, impulsives, et donc, animales.

Point de repĂšre # 2. Ton corpsc’est toi – ce n’est pas une chose qui t’appartient, mais tu es ton corps en mĂȘme temps que tu es aussi ton Ăąme, ton esprit, ta pensĂ©e, et ton cƓur, qui tous ensembles font la personne que tu es. Donc, ce que ton corps vit, tu le vis aussi. Par consĂ©quent, tous les comportements qui dĂ©forment la personne et la sexualitĂ© humaine par toute forme d’expression pornographique – tels que la soumission Ă  la concupiscence ou aux comportements instinctifs comme la fellation et autres – sont une rupture de ta dignitĂ©.                 Les relations sexuelles Ă  rĂ©pĂ©tition endurcissent le cƓur qui devient incapable de vraiment aimer ou d’ĂȘtre aimĂ© ; ce qui entraĂźne une grande souffrance d’isolement et de froid intĂ©rieur. La frĂ©quentation de la pornographie fait qu’une personne Ă  le cƓur endurci ne croit plus Ă  l’amour vĂ©ritable, ni Ă  la vie. Soit que la personne se laisse engloutir par un instinct de suicide soit qu’elle cherche la fuite telle que l’option artificielle « no sexe » ou le refus de s’identifier Ă  tout genre : « Je ne suis ni mĂąle ni femelle, ni homme ni femme ».

Point de repĂšre # 3. Face Ă  toute cette pollution d’idĂ©es, de propagande, et d’Ă©tats intĂ©rieurs, que dire Ă  nos enfants ? « Je suis fait pour aimerj’ai un cƓur. » Le parent peut et doit imprĂ©gner le cƓur de l’enfant d’amour et l’enfant saura lui-mĂȘme ou elle-mĂȘme reconnaĂźtre les propos « poubelle ». Tout comme il faut bien cirer Ă  plusieurs rĂ©pĂ©titions un meuble en bois de grande qualitĂ© pour le protĂ©ger de toute tache ; ainsi les parents doivent-ils « bien cirer » les cƓurs, les esprits, les pensĂ©es, les Ăąmes de leurs enfants. Les « couches » de cire sont autant de moments intimes de complicitĂ© avec leur enfant en lui tenant toutes sortes de propos d’amour – de l’amour de ses parents mais aussi de l’amour de Dieu – dont lui, l’enfant, est le produit et dont il fait toujours l’objet, et maintenant qu’il est en train de devenir aussi le sujet, capable d’aimer Ă  son tour l’autre de façon dĂ©sintĂ©ressĂ©e et d’un amour sacrificiel.                                                                                                                                            Nous sommes faits par Dieu pour le don, pour l’amour qui se donne – parlez Ă  l’enfant dans l’amour. Il y a tout un vocabulaire Ă  se donner ou Ă  inventer qui Ă©vite toute la pollution de perversions sexuelles que les mots ordinaires dĂ©sormais, malheureusement, traĂźnent Ă  leur suite.

La crĂ©ativitĂ© du langage de l’amour dans le domaine affectif et sexuel

Le ventre de la maman, l’utĂ©rus de la maman est un sanctuaire de la vie, un berceau sĂ©curisĂ© pour le bĂ©bĂ© tout prĂšs du cƓur de sa maman oĂč bĂ©bĂ© entend battre le cƓur de maman qui fait une musique de deux cƓurs qui battent ensemble

Comment le bĂ©bĂ© va-t-il sortir du ventre de maman ? Le bĂ©bĂ© va sortir par un petit chemin rĂ©servĂ© Ă  la vie et Ă  l’amour, rĂ©servĂ© pour lui le bĂ©bĂ© pour sa vie, et rĂ©servĂ© aussi Ă  l’amour et donc au papa.

Le vagin de la maman est fait uniquement pour la vie et pour l’amour.

L’anus c’est pour autre chose, pour permettre au corps de rejeter les rebus.

Le chemin du pipi aussi, mĂȘme s’il semble ĂȘtre le mĂȘme chemin pour deux choses diffĂ©rentes, ce n’est qu’une partie du chemin qui est partagĂ©, mais pour une seule chose Ă  la fois.

Comment le bĂ©bĂ© est-il entrĂ© dans le ventre de maman ?

Chemin d'amour # 1.                      Le bĂ©bĂ© est entrĂ© dans le ventre de maman par le mĂȘme chemin spĂ©cial qu’il va prendre pour sortir le jour de sa naissance. C’est le petit chemin rĂ©servĂ© Ă  la vie et Ă  l’amour, pour le cƓur.

Chemin d'amour # 2.                      Papa et Maman s’aiment et ils se le disent, mais ce n’est pas assez – comme toi quand tu es content de me voir et tu me donne un cĂąlin – alors Papa et Maman se donnent un cĂąlin spĂ©cial.

Chemin d'amour # 3.                      Quand le cƓur du papa et de la maman sont pleins d’amour ; alors le cƓur du papa aussi est plein d’amour et il est capable de donner tout son amour Ă  la maman. La verge du papa se redresse tout doucement et est capable d’entrer dans le chemin de la maman rĂ©servĂ© Ă  la vie et Ă  l’amour.

Chemin d'amour # 4.                      Alors il y a un couronnement de l’amour… il y a grande joie dans leurs cƓurs et dans leurs corps unis, et c’est de cet amour que l’enfant commence Ă  exister dans le ventre de sa maman.

LES ADOLESCENTS

L’Ă©ducation de nos enfants est de notre droit et de notre devoir de penser et de parler. Les idĂ©ologues cherchent Ă  nous intimider et Ă  nous rĂ©duire au silence, mais nous avons naturellement le droit et le devoir de parler Ă  nos enfants plus prĂ©cisĂ©ment, qui, pour leur part, ont le droit et le besoin de savoir toute la vĂ©ritĂ© sur leur vie et leur origine, sur leur nature humaine, et leur sexualitĂ© humaine. Avec les adolescents, qui dĂ©sormais observent la dichotomie qu’il y a entre les diverses voix qui revendiquent leur attention et leur assentiment, il nous faut une approche plus prĂ©cise.

Approche # 1.                   Face Ă  toutes les voix qui parlent de la sexualitĂ© humaine, il faut en parler davantage prĂ©cisĂ©ment avec les adolescents, qui ont un plus grand besoin de comprendre concrĂštement.

Approche # 2.                   Il faut aussi leur parler du combat intĂ©rieur et de la maĂźtrise de soi, qu’en tant que personnes humaines nous avons une grande capacitĂ© de maĂźtrise de soi, mais qu’il faut exercer celle-ci, que notre maĂźtrise de soi s’accroĂźt avec la pratique, et que l’amour de Dieu est la source de notre force intĂ©rieure. C’est Dieu qui nous aime le premier et qui nous entraĂźne Ă  l’aimer, Ă  aimer les autres, et Ă  nous aimer nous-mĂȘmes.

Approche # 3.                   Il est bon et nĂ©cessaire pour nous de susciter l’admiration de l’enfant – et Ă©ventuellement de l’adolescent – pour la perfection de l’amour. Aimer c’est comme avoir une bonne voix. Pour bien chanter il faut voir et bien connaĂźtre la partition. Les mots et les notes de la partition sont : le respect de l’autre, la fidĂ©litĂ© Ă  l’autre, la tendresse envers l’autre, l’attention aux attentes de l’autre.

Approche # 4.                   Homophilie – Au dĂ©but de l’adolescence on est rassurĂ© avec ses semblables et donc on peut ressentir plein d’Ă©motions envers ses semblables, mais il n’y a rien de sexuel en cela. Cependant aujourd’hui la culture (qui depuis des dĂ©cennies est manipulĂ©e par des gens avec des agendas stratĂ©giques pour changer les attitudes de la sociĂ©tĂ©) la culture, donc, cherche Ă  sexualiser l’autre. Malheureusement, cette sexualisation artificielle de l’autre rend trĂšs difficile l’amitiĂ© vĂ©ritable et dĂ©sintĂ©ressĂ©e avec l’autre sans accents sexuels.

Approche # 5.                   Il ne faut surtout pas Ă©couter les voix qui prĂ©conisent de « tout essayer » en matiĂšre d’activitĂ© sexuelle, parce qu’il y a une « mĂ©moire du corps » qui mĂȘme aprĂšs un seul acte colore tout ce qui suivra. C’est ainsi qu’en dehors de la relation amoureuse engagĂ©e, permanente, exclusive, et fidĂšle d’un homme et d’une femme, comme dans le mariage, toute activitĂ© sexuelle conditionne le cƓur humain dans une voie d’Ă©goĂŻsme et de quĂȘte de son propre plaisir ; ce qui endurcie le cƓur humain et rend d’autant plus difficile l’amour vrai.

Approche # 6.                   Un jeune peut se rendre compte qu’un « dragueur » cherche Ă  s’imposer Ă  lui. Ce jeune doit comprendre – et c’est absolument essentiel – que « sentir » quelque chose n’est pas « consentir ». Le jeune, comme toute personne humaine, demeure toujours libre de se demander, « Qu’est-ce que je veux ? » et « Est-ce que c’est bien ou non ? » Le « Non ! » dont je suis capable dans ma conscience me protĂšge pour un jour pouvoir dire un beau « Oui ! » Ă  la personne de mon choix pour l’aimer et qui m’aimera en retour.

Approche # 7.                   La jeune adolescente comme la jeune adulte peut se trouver en condition temporaire de « homo femini » ou de crainte de la sexualitĂ© masculine en raison de sa reprĂ©sentation violente en porno. Elle doit apprendre de ses parents qu’il n’en est pas ainsi dans une relation amoureuse entre personnes humaines.

Parents, prenez beaucoup de moments gratuits en tĂȘte Ă  tĂȘte avec votre enfant. Voyez la relation d’apprivoisement dans la rencontre du renard avec le petit prince. Il faut s’approcher avec dĂ©licatesse, et cela prends du temps. Pour les garçons, c’est mieux par le pĂšre ; sinon, la mĂšre doit le faire. Par exemple, la mĂšre peut lui dire, « Ton pĂšre et moi nous voulons te dire… »

LA VIE SPIRITUELLE DES ENFANTS

Le pĂ©chĂ© originelle consiste en l’homme et la femme qui se dĂ©tourne de leur relation Ă  Dieu le CrĂ©ateur pour prĂ©fĂ©rer Ă  confectionner leur propre vie, leur propre rĂ©alitĂ©, leur propre univers, leur propre dĂ©finition de la vie humaine ainsi que du bien et du mal. Il n’y a rien de plus souffrant dans notre condition humaine que de cet isolement de Dieu, Lui qui est non seulement notre origine dans l’amour mais aussi notre destinĂ©e finale et Ă©ternelle.

Il est donc capital pour les parents d’introduire leur enfant au Bon Dieu. Cependant, on ne peut pas donner ce qu’on ne possĂšde pas dĂ©jĂ . Toutefois, avec le Bon Dieu, il n’est jamais trop tard. Donc, la simple rĂ©alisation par les parents qu’ils ont Ă  quelque part au-dedans d’eux-mĂȘmes un quelconque dĂ©sir de donner Ă  leurs enfants ce qui est le mieux peut dĂ©jĂ  leur ouvrir une porte Ă  tout ce qui existe « au-delĂ  ». VoilĂ  donc l’opportunitĂ© dans le moment prĂ©sent de donner Ă  leur enfant soit les « sacrements », soit la connaissance de Dieu, soit la priĂšre, soit la spiritualitĂ©, soit la foi, ainsi de suite.

Le cƓur de la Tradition judĂ©o-chrĂ©tienne est clairement que le Bon Dieu, CrĂ©ateur de l’Univers, dĂ©sire avoir avec toute personne humaine une relation d’amitiĂ© et d’amour. Le Bon Dieu, qui est richissime, veut tout nous donner, mais il y a de notre part trop souvent des entraves… les « portes » au-dedans de nous ne sont pas toujours ouvertes, ou bien elles ne sont pas ouvertes toutes grandes.

LE BAPTÊMEAu BaptĂȘme le Dieu TrinitĂ© engendre au sein de la personne humaine une « relation de famille » qui introduit la personne – mĂȘme le petit bĂ©bĂ© naissant – au sein de la relation de communion qui existe depuis toujours et qui « dĂ©finit » l’ĂȘtre divin que nous appelons Dieu et dont JĂ©sus a rĂ©vĂ©lĂ© la nature comme une « communion de personnes divines en un seul ĂȘtre divin ». La vie qui existe en Dieu dans un amour parfait dans une harmonie parfaite commence Ă  « ruisseler » ou « vibrer » en nous, et nous commençons Ă  « vivre en Dieu ». Comme pour tout le reste de notre vie humain sur Terre, cette nouvelle vie « en Dieu » doit ĂȘtre cultivĂ©e, d’abord par les parents et les parrains, mais graduellement par la participation libre et motivĂ©e de l’enfant lui-mĂȘme ou elle-mĂȘme.

LA CONFIRMATIONQue ce soit le lendemain de sa naissance ou Ă  11 / 12 ans, Ă  sa confirmation ou chrismation, l’enfant reçoit une nouvelle « effusion de l’Esprit Saint de Dieu » comme l’ont reçue les apĂŽtres et la centaine d’autres disciples assemblĂ©s autour de la MĂšre de JĂ©sus dans le CĂ©nacle le jour de la PentecĂŽte. L’Esprit Saint est toujours Ă  l’Ɠuvre pour infuser ses dons : la piĂ©tĂ© pour un grand respect pour l’Ɠuvre de Dieu, dont l’homme et la femme, garçon / fille ; et tous les autres dons spirituels pour la personne et charismes pour le bien des autres et de l’Église. Les parents peuvent et doivent aider leur enfant Ă  se voir aimĂ©(e) de Dieu et qu’il se reçoit de Dieu dans l’amour. Son genre – femelle ou mĂąle / femme ou homme – a Ă©tĂ© donnĂ© Ă  sa conception et dĂ©sormais se manifestera et grandira.

LA SAINTE COMMUNIONComme la maman donne de son sang / lait en nourrissant son bĂ©bĂ© au sein maternel, ainsi JĂ©sus – ressuscitĂ© des morts et Fils de Dieu – se donne en nourriture spirituelle aux communiants, nous donnant par le fait mĂȘme une vĂ©ritable « transfusion » de la vie divine qu’Il possĂšde avec son PĂšre et l’Esprit Saint. Notre partage de la vie divine d’amour qui est en Dieu en laquelle nous avons Ă©tĂ© initiĂ©s au BaptĂȘme n’est pas encore « permanent » sur cette Terre, et ne deviendra permanent qu’au Ciel quand nous aurons accompli notre vie et notre mission.

L’ONCTION DES MALADESComme Il le faisait en Palestine, JĂ©sus continue de guĂ©rir malades et blessĂ©s tout en pardonnant les fautes et en chassant les mauvais esprits qui Ă  diverses occasions tourmentent les baptisĂ©s.

LE PARDON – LA RÉCONCILIATIONJĂ©sus nous permet de Le rencontrer face Ă  face comme lorsqu’Il marchait sur la Terre par les reprĂ©sentants qu’Il se donne et qu’Il nous envoie en la personne de ses prĂȘtres  (LES SAINTS ORDRES).

LE MARIAGEÀ ceux qui croient en Lui et qui mettent en Lui leur confiance JĂ©sus se porte garant que leur amour reflĂšte son amour fidĂšle et sacrificiel pour son Église, sa Bien-aimĂ©e, le corps de tous ses disciples fidĂšles rassemblĂ©s.

P.S.: La GenĂšse reprĂ©sente la crĂ©ation par Dieu des humains dans leur innocence originelle en tant qu’homme et femme. L’ennemi de l’humanitĂ© cherche Ă  sexualiser notre capacitĂ© d’amitiĂ© afin de nous rĂ©duire en esclavage et nous priver de la libertĂ© des enfants de Dieu. Le pĂ©chĂ© nous a divisĂ©s comme homme ou femme. La patriarchie est la domination par l’homme. Le fĂ©minisme nous rĂ©duit Ă  ni homme ni femme. L’idĂ©ologie du genre cherche Ă  neutraliser notre genre innĂ© comme femme ou homme en remplaçant notre identitĂ© par l’illusion du « choix ». Pour sa part, la culture « gai » et le lobby homosexuel s’en prennent aux jeunes enfants avant la pubertĂ© et les jeunes adolescents qui souvent font l’expĂ©rience de l’ « Homophilie » au cours de leur dĂ©veloppement. Leur stratĂ©gie dĂ©libĂ©rĂ©e est d’imposer leur idĂ©ologie prĂ©cisĂ©ment au moment oĂč les jeunes sont les plus vulnĂ©rables. Leur objectif est de faire « tomber » les  jeunes en s’identifiant comme « gai » ou « lesbienne » eux-mĂȘmes et, par le fait mĂȘme, nier et abandonner leur grande dignitĂ© de fille ou de garçon, femme ou homme, qui est en accord avec le genre dont ils ont Ă©tĂ© dotĂ© Ă  leur conception. La bonne nouvelle est que JĂ©sus Christ notre Seigneur restaure notre innocence perdue et notre capacitĂ© pour le don rĂ©ciproque de soi, pour lequel notre genre nous habilite. VoilĂ  le don que Dieu nous fait pour nous permettre de vivre notre vie humaine et l’amour Ă  l’image de Dieu TrinitĂ©. 

Ces notes furent prises Ă  la confĂ©rence donnĂ©e le 29 mars, 2017 aux bureaux de l’ArchidiocĂšse of MontrĂ©al par InĂšs PĂ©lissiĂ© du Rausas avec quelques pensĂ©es que j’ai cru bon d’ajouter. Son livre contient une explication beaucoup plus complĂšte et dĂ©taillĂ©e de ses instructions aux parents et s’intitule :

“S’il te plait, parle-moi de l’amour ! »


Ce livre est disponible Ă  Amazon en France Ă  ce LIEN : ou Ă  Amazon.ca au LIEN :

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best efforts as human beings to make sense of our lives in general - and of our human sexuality in particular - and to also include the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium; given that the Church has been accumulating the wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7     G.S.

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