Showing posts with label God's Plan for Human Sexuality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label God's Plan for Human Sexuality. Show all posts

Saturday, May 11, 2024

"I worry that my husband may leave me." OR "I am troubled that my wife no longer loves me." What light is there to dispell our darkness from the Wisdom of God revealed in his Eternal Word?

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There are facts and truths that "sexual libertarians" don't want society or public opinion to know, that even they don't want to know. To sum up those facts - accumulated in different human cultures and societies - we don't need sex to live a full life and be content. To define one's identity on the basis of our sexuality alone is to reduce our human value and dignity. I am a lot more than just my genitalia, and so are you. G.S.

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best human efforts to make sense of our lives - and of our human sexuality in particular - also including the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium. The Church has been accumulating much valuable wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7 "And this is eternal life, that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent." John 17:3
Father Gilles Surprenant, priest & poustinik

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Good morning, Woman. 

        "Woman" is the endearing name by which Jesus, dying on the Cross for us, addressed his Mother Mary; when - in his last will and testament decision for her and for John, and all of us - He entrusted her to the care of his Beloved Disciple John as his Mother now, and John as her son - and in John, all of us as her children. This was the greatest title Jesus could give Mary. Every woman is the pinnacle of God's creation, capable of creating with God, and the participation of her husband, other immortal souls embodied in human flesh."

        God our Creator designed us with free will; otherwise, we would be incapable of divine, selfless love, incapable of friendship among ourselves or with God. We would resemble robots, machines, or animals, who have no choice but to be in accord with their nature. A cat can never be a dog.

        Firstly, if you have troubled feelings about your husband, or your children, or yourself, or life; there's really nothing anyone can do about feelings. They just are what they are, and they generally pass. We need to avoid obsessing about them and simply turn our attention to something requiring our attention; such as the duty of the moment, the next thing that needs to be done or taken care of. When all else fails, turn your attention to someone else and care for them: one of your children or all of them together, or your husband, or another family member, or a neighbour, or even a stranger. If your husband decides to walk away, there is nothing you can do about it; nor about his feelings either. Feelings are what they are. Sometimes they add colour to life, at other times they alert us to danger or trouble or hurt requiring our attention, and in the end, they are simply to be accepted or endured.

        Secondly, because of the original sin, we have lost our original innocence. This means that our vision, perspective, and interior weather and landscape are constantly skewed. That is explained at the beginning of the Book of Genesis, the first book in the Christian Bible after it originally began as the first of the five books of the Hebrew Torah or Law, also called the Law of Moses. We are forever in need of hearing this story in a fresh way. Here is one such version, my own.

        God made the first human beings innocent and free to enjoy God's love and all good things. First, He made the man, who got lonely; so, then, He gave him the woman.

        But first, God told the man he had everything he needed but should be wary of thinking he was missing something... the experience of evil. He should not touch nor taste of the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good AND EVIL.

        The woman only got this instruction second hand from the man.

        That's why the devil, the demon, Satan, the fallen angel Lucifer, attacked her. He is a dangerous rebel and brute, who is clever and always attacks us at our weakest point. That's why he attacked her.

        "Try it.", he said. We don't really know what IT was... but it was definitely something EVIL, and in some way pictured or demonstrated IT for her to entice her.

        "No.", she said, "God told us we would die".

        "Oh no.", says the demon." God knows that if you experience evil, you will be like God, knowing EVERYTHING." In other words, the demon made God out to be a liar and a being who was holding back something from them, not wanting them to be like God. This, or course, is the great LIE. 

        So, all things considered, noticing how attractive this now seemed, she went for IT.

        That was her first mistake. She could have said: "Now, hold on a minute. First, I must go and consult my husband." If she had done that, the jig would have been up and the demon might have failed. But no. She brought IT to her husband. Second mistake.

        The man's first big mistake is that he was not vigilant, wasn't concerned for his wife's safety; he didn't ask her: "Where did you get that? Don't you remember what I told you God said to me; that we would die?" But no; he just grabs IT too.

        Then they realized they were naked and hid from God whom they heard coming into the garden as usual for their shared walk.

        "Where are you, Adam?" "I hid, because I am naked. We are naked."

        "Who told you that you are naked? Did you go for the knowledge of good and EVIL I told you not to touch?"

        "The woman You gave me brought IT to me and I went for it." Adam's second big mistake. He didn't take responsibility for himself. He could have admitted what he had done and asked God to forgive him, but no. Our situation might have been better then, but as it is, here we are. Then, he blames the woman instead; third big mistake.

        So, God questions the woman. Same story. She doesn't confess and ask pardon, her third big mistake. Like the man, she blames somebody else, the serpent, the demon. Fourth big mistake.

        God tells the demon he's doomed. The woman's offspring will crush his head as he tries to bite his heel. Jesus will fulfill this. As the demon succeeds in killing Jesus in his human body, Jesus as the infinite Son of God will be killing death itself and overcoming the demon and his armies when He raises his human body and transforms it into an immortal human body, one that can never die anymore.

        God tells the woman that because of all her mistakes, God doesn't have to lift a finger to punish or correct her. This is because she already contains in herself the consequences of having lost trust in God, havign broken trust in her man, having abandoned responsible care for the creatures and for the garden. Her birth pains will be increased, and she will forever be insecure in her relationship with her man. She will forever be grabbing at him, and each time annoyed, he will react and push her away, and dominate her.

        Finally, God tells the man that because of all his mistakes, and because he broke his trust in God his Creator, because he failed in his responsibility to care for and watch over the woman, because he failed to care for the creatures and for the garden, and as a result has failed in his original mandate to cultivate the garden, from this point on, the garden will resist his efforts to cultivate and care for it. His efforts will be misguided and won't work. He will labour more intensively, with profuse sweat, but for meagre results, often getting thorns and thistles instead of good fruit.

        Then, God kills some innocent beasts to make clothing for the man and the woman.

        At last, God sends them out of the garden; since, they have broken trust with God and demonstrated how little they care for God or for friendship with Him. They have shown unwillingness to be responsible and worse, they have attempted to compete with God their Creator himself - rather than continuing to be willing to receive from God his friendship and other gifts in due course - they have tried on their own terms to be equal to their Creator in knowledge and experience, going so far as to add EVIL to their repertoire. The only possible way they can find their way back to friendship with God and responsible care for the garden will be through the trials and difficulties of life, and they will be deprived of the immediacy of God's closeness and his friendship, which they have rejected. They will have to turn away from the pride and greed they have shown and, instead, demonstrate pure desire for God's friendship in order to begin to experience once again his love.

        God's final solution will come when his Son becomes the son of a woman; which Jesus realized when Mary conceived Him by the Holy Spirit. As He grew into a man, He demonstrated to humanity for all time what a pure, unconditionally loving human being looks like in the male mode. The Most Holy Trinity gave us what a pure, unconditionally loving human being looks like in the female mode in Mary of Nazareth, who accepted God's plan and became the Mother of God.

        The moral of the story, my dear woman, my dear sister, is that you can never trust your impressions, thoughts, or feelings about your husband, your man. He doesn't really belong to you; he belongs only to himself, just as you belong only to yourself. In marriage, you give yourself as a total and selfless gift one to the other. This self-giving can never be done once and for all; no, it needs to be given over and over again, each day, and at each moment, and in every circumstance.

        When you decide to turn your attention away from your feelings and attend instead to caring for a family member; then you are fulfilling your vocation to live as a child of God and to make room for divine love within you. You choose to live in sync with the Most Holy Trinity dwelling within you and turn away from the inclinations and traps from the evil one, the old stinker, the father of lies and enemy of humanity. Each day, each moment that your husband doesn't walk away, but remains with you, today, now; take it as a great and undeserved gift to you on his part. In the same way, when you continue to try to care for your husband, no matter how you feel; you are making of yourself a great and undeserved gift to him on your part. It is then up to him to appreciate you as undeserved gift to him; just as it is constantly up to you to appreciate him as undeserved gift to you.

        Only as we turn our will and try to do this, moment by moment, are we accepting God's grace of undeserved merciful love to flow through us, to irrigate every fibre of our bodies, minds, hearts / psyches, and souls, and only then do we become radiant. Then, the world is less dark and others enjoy a bit more light for their steps....

                                                   Pax + Caritas,       Fr. Gilles


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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best human efforts to make sense of our lives - and of our human sexuality in particular - also including the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium. The Church has been accumulating much valuable wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7 "And this is eternal life, that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent." John 17:3
Father Gilles Surprenant, priest & poustinik

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© 2006-2024 All rights reserved Fr. Gilles Surprenant, Associate Priest of Madonna House Apostolate & Poustinik, Montreal  QC
© 2006-2024 Tous droits réservés Abbé Gilles Surprenant, Prêtre Associé de Madonna House Apostolate & Poustinik, Montréal QC
 

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Saturday, March 6, 2021

THE CREATOR'S DESIGN FOR OUR LIFE & HAPPINESS - God has revealed his Plan for us to be able to give meaning & purpose to our lives and in this way to find fulfillment

There are facts and truths that "sexual libertarians" don't want society or public opinion to know, that even they don't want to know. To sum up those facts - accumulated in different human cultures and societies - we don't need sex to live a full life and be content. To define one's identity on the basis of our sexuality alone is to reduce our human value and dignity. I am a lot more than just my genitalia, and so are you. G.S.

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best human efforts to make sense of our lives - and of our human sexuality in particular - also including the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium. The Church has been accumulating much valuable wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7 
Father Gilles Surprenant, priest & poustinik

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In each case, for the complete article go to the link.

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The next few links offer eloquent testimonies to the incalculable value of human life. Stephanie Gray shows how to enter into a most compassionate dialogue on issues which, for many people, evoke their most painful human experiences. We are called to love others by listening compassionately and taking genuine interest in their stories, because we have much to learn from one another.     G.S.

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In considering abortion as an option, or else before or after trying to understand what might be consequences of having an abortion, it is good to remember that LOVE UNLEASHES LIFE.

Courtroom genetics testimony of Dr. Jerome Lejeune on the wonder of human conception in the Circuit Court for Blount County State of tennessee at Maryville, Tennessee on August 10th, 1989. 


 SEVERAL INFORMATIVE LINKS / LIENS UTILES ET INFORMATIFS

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Everyone wants to succeed. Sadly, we see around us so much failure and heartache... why is that? When we insist on finding our own way alone, we cannot avoid making mistakes, often the same mistakes others have made. It is wise to be willing to learn from the wisdom others have acquired, often painfully and at great cost. Our Church has two millennia of wisdom for life and marriage.    G.S.

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Successful Couples / Réussir son couple 

👉 https://www.diocesemontreal.org/en/life-and-its-seasons/marriage 👈

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We are wise to be willing to learn from others, including the Church and her Magisterium teachings, which provide knowledge, context, and depth regarding human intimacy for our "Life Project".  G.S.

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The Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality 

👉 Guidelines for Education within the Family 👈

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Human experience accumulates wisdom, and from our collective experience we know for certain that the most effective way to avoid unexpected pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections is to restrict intimate relations to one's life long spouse or simply to abstain from sexual relations altogether. Contrary to widespread disinformation, we don't need sex in order to thrive and experience fulfillment in the meaning and purpose we want to give to our lives. For more information go to:
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Next in all conscience we share this information which suffers under a worldwide embargo preventing the deadly truth from getting out. The primary reason is that women who undergo an abortion - either immediately or later - endure such lasting suffering, physical but more often psychological; that they are ashamed or afraid or both to say anything about it. In time, many courageously admit how much they regret having had an abortion. The scandal is that all too often we men have not stood by our women but abandoned them to carry alone the burden of pregnancy, which is intended by our Creator to be carried by the couple in lifelong blessing and great joy for all concerned. So, be warned.  G.S.

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Abortion and contraception - You have a right and need to know 

👉 HUSH - a liberating conversation about abortion and women's health  👈

Diocese of Montreal  - Scroll down and click the tab TODAY'S CHALLENGES and scroll down to the links provided - Life and Its Seasons - Family

Diocese of Hamilton ON - Natural Family Planning 

U.S.A. National Library of Medicine - Natural Family Planning 

Research and links from Priests for Life Canada - Scroll for Topics under Resources 

Florida Health Services - Foundations of Life - Risks About Abortion 

USCCB: Respect for Unborn Human Life: The Church's Constant Teaching 

JOURNAL OF PSYCHIATRIC RESEARCH - 
Induced abortion and anxiety, mood, and substance abuse disorders: Isolating 
the effects of abortion in the national comorbidity survey - See especially the Discussion on page 6-7. 

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The media - especially mainstream media - are too often more interested in bad news. One effect is that truly GOOD NEWS remains hidden and often hard to find. Here is some really great news about the support that actually exists out there for women abandoned by their man to carry alone the burden of their pregnancy. The GOOD NEWS is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Check this out!  G.S.

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Pregnancy Support - My Choices / Soutient Grossesse - Mes Choix 

👉 Pregnancy Care Canada - Chateauguay QC Services Options  👈

Mutual Help Organizations - Catholic Action Montreal 

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It is true that carrying an unexpected pregnancy to term and then giving up the baby for adoption is a difficult sacrifice to make. It's hard to let go once you've "bonded" with your baby for nine months. However, for the rest of your life you will know that you have given life! This is much easier to bear for the rest of your life than knowing that you put an end to a life. See this for yourself!  G.S.

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Canada Adopts -
See your doctor or social worker to offer your baby for adoption

👉 Putting A Baby Up For Adoption in Canada: The Process  👈

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Our Creator is not a cruel God who abandons his creatures to their own devices. No! God actually cares for us and loves us and, in the Holy Spirit, offers us supernatural gifts for our life journey.  G.S.

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Fruits & Gifts of the Holy Spirit
Fruits et Dons de l'Esprit Saint 

👉 http://fruitsetdons.net/fruits-and-gifts.html 👈

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Genuine love for others must begin with authentic and true, properly ordered love for one's own life, receiving our life moment by moment from our Creator as the priceless gift that our life is.   G.S.

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SELF-ESTEEM AND ASSERTION: FOUNDATIONS OF LIFE!
ESTIME ET AFFIRMATION DE SOI : FONDATIONS DE LA VIE !

👉 http://estimeetaffirmationdesoi.ca/self-esteem-and-assertion.html 👈

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Extraterrestrials observing our condom use might rightly conclude that the human species is afraid of its own fertility, and they would be right. Tragically, the facts tell a far scarier story. Selling condoms is a profitable business, the facts threaten the profit margin. Condoms don't deliver the full protection they advertise. The perfect protection from deadly infectious diseases and from unwanted pregnancy is to reserve our fertility for our own spouse for life - before and during marriage.  G.S.

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CHASTITY is the most effective way to avoid STI's 

👉 U.S.A. National Library of Medicine  👈

For the first time in human history, sexual promiscuity and sexually transmitted infections have skyrocketed and are out of control - not to mention the disappointment and heartache....

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The so-called "sexual revolution" of the 1960's messaged women they could enjoy the same "freedom" from responsibility apparently enjoyed by men, but it was a big lie. Men and women become "less manly" and "less feminine" when engaging in senseless and irresponsible sexual activity. Because of the shame involved in abortion, it took decades for women to realize and admit the truth of their suffering because of abortion. Over time, amazing support services developed. Now women can know it is possible to experience healing and to prosper again after an abortion.  G.S.

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POST-ABORTION HEALING RESOURCES IN CANADA

👇 Post Abortion Healing Links 👇

Campaign Life Coalition 

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY - Hope & Healing - Recovery Resources 

Healing for MEN - Knights of Columbus - EWTN Interview text 

Sisters of Life - Hope & Healing 

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PREGNANT AND NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO? YOU ARE NOT ALONE!  G.S.

---------------------------------------------------------------- I am pregnant and I am thinking about getting an abortion...   Je suis enceinte et je songe à l'avortement... (La barre de navigation en haut à gauche du centre a un bouton FRANÇAIS n'est pas toujours visible... trouvez-le à tâtons....) 

👉 https://pregnancysupportservices.org 👈

WELCOME TO PREGNANCY SUPPORT SERVICES
AND 👉 RELATIONSHIPS ED. 👈
(Site américain en anglais et en espagnol seulement)

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Until recently we could go to the Moon and consider going to Mars, but we still knew so little about a woman's body, fertility, and how it all works together. Feminine fertility and vitality remained one of life's great mysteries. Finally, science is catching up and we now understand so much more about how our feminine fertility works and doctors can actually diagnose missing elements and provide them in simple therapies that allow "infertile" women to enjoy their full fertility. Check this out!  G.S.

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NaProTechnology - Medical and Surgical 
Specialty for Women of Procreative Age
(Site américain en anglais seulement)

👉 https://naprotechnology.com 👈


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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best efforts as human beings to make sense of our lives in general - and of our human sexuality in particular - and to also include the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium; given that the Church has been accumulating the wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7     G.S.

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© 2006-2023 All rights reserved Fr. Gilles Surprenant, Associate Priest of Madonna House Apostolate & Poustinik, Montreal  QC
© 2006-2023 Tous droits réservés Abbé Gilles Surprenant, Prêtre Associé de Madonna House Apostolate & Poustinik, Montréal QC
 

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Tuesday, March 19, 2019

HUMAN RESISTANCE TO GOD'S PLAN & PRINCIPLES - God's motives are entirely selfless and motivated exclusively for our highest good here on Earth and in eternity

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There are facts and truths that "sexual libertarians" don't want society or public opinion to know, that even they don't want to know. To sum up those facts - accumulated in different human cultures and societies - we don't need sex to live a full life and be content. To define one's identity on the basis of our sexuality alone is to reduce our human value and dignity. I am a lot more than just my genitalia, and so are you. G.S.

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best human efforts to make sense of our lives - and of our human sexuality in particular - also including the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium. The Church has been accumulating much valuable wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7 
Father Gilles Surprenant, priest & poustinik

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 1- GOD'S PLAN & PRINCIPLES FOR HAPPINESS OF ALL 

SCROLL DOWN 👇 = 2- WE RESIST BY PRIORITIZING OUR OWN PLEASURE 

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In each case, please go to the link for the complete article.

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👉 The Testimony of Gloria Polo - “I was at the gates of heaven and of hell” 

If someone might doubt, or think that God does not exist, that life beyond is something from the films, or that with death all ends, do yourself a favor and read this testimony! But read it from the beginning to the end! Even the most skeptical opinion, perhaps, will change! We are dealing here with something that really occurred! Gloria Polo is a woman that “died”, she passed to the other world and returned precisely to give her testimony to the incredulous. God gives us many proofs, but we always deny His existence. Gloria Polo actually lives in Colombia, she continues to exercise the same profession that she had before this event. She remained with enormous scars, but she has a normal life; this difference is that now she is a woman with great faith! She travels a lot, in order to give her testimony to thousands of people, fulfilling the mission that God confided to her (she has the authorization from the part of the Church for this). This is a transcription of one of her testimonies, given in a church in Caracas (Venezuela), May 5, 2005, and it is translated from the Spanish original version. It is authentic! IT IS NOT A FAKE! Padre Leone Orlando 👉 Video version with simultaneous translation 

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This English version was translated from the Italian translation of Padre Orlando, with the acknowledgement and encouragement of Gloria Polo, by Father Joseph Dwight. 

👉 Témoignage de Mme Gloria Polo - "du Paradis à l'Enfer" 

Une mort clinique - Un jugement - Une seconde chance - Mme Gloria Polo, dentiste à Bogota, (Colombie), était à Lisbonne et Fatima, la dernière semaine de Février 2007, pour donner son témoignage. Sur son site internet : Dra. Gloria Polo. Testimonio místico. Colombia., apparaît un extrait (en anglais) d'une interview qu'elle a accordée à 'Radio Maria' en Colombie. Frères et soeurs, c'est merveilleux pour moi de partager avec vous en cet instant, l'ineffable grâce que m'a donnée Notre Seigneur, il y a maintenant plus de dix ans. 👉 Version vidéo avec traduction simultanée 

👉 SACRAMENTAL PRINCIPLE 
By Leo Walsh, CSB - 
God is all perfect, by definition. God created all things. So in some way everything that is, is an image of God. Therefore, everything points to God, gives us an idea of God, however imperfect. Everything is a sign of God. The heavens proclaim the glory of God. All things do. The signifying of one thing by another is something well-known to us. We don't always interpret the signs correctly, of course, but mostly we do. A face signifies a particular person, a genuine smile signifies friendship in some way, a false smile points to treachery. An older couple holding hands as they come to church, a mother pacifying a crying child, teenagers' bored body language, a young woman in silent prayer.... There are endless examples of this efficacious sacramentality in ordinary life, where the sign brings about what it signifies. A gift, which is a sign of friendship, deepens the friendship; a hug which is a sign of togetherness, brings about togetherness. 

👉 Affirmation of the Church’s Teaching on the Gift of Sexuality  
April 4-6, 2018 - We, the undersigned scholars, affirm that the Catholic Church’s teachings on the gift of sexuality, on marriage, and on contraception are true and defensible on many grounds, among them the truths of reason and revelation concerning the dignity of the human person. Scholarly support for the Church’s teachings on the gift of sexuality, on marriage, and on contraception has burgeoned in recent decades. Moreover, institutes and programs supporting that teaching have been established all over the world. Even some secular feminists and secular programs have begun to acknowledge the harms of contraception. These facts, however, seem to have escaped the notice of the authors of “On the Ethics of Using Contraceptives” (hereafter, the Wijngaards Statement) which urges the Catholic Church to change its teaching and issue an “official magisterial document [that] should revoke the absolute ban on the use of ‘artificial’ contraceptives, and allow the use of modern non-abortifacient contraceptives for both prophylactic and family planning purposes.” The Wijngaards Statement, unfortunately, offers nothing new to discussions about the morality of contraception and, in fact, repeats the arguments that the Church has rejected and that numerous scholars have engaged and refuted since 1968.

👉 ENCYCLICAL LETTER HUMANAE VITAE OF THE SUPREME PONTIFF PAUL VI 
The transmission of human life is a most serious role in which married people collaborate freely and responsibly with God the Creator. It has always been a source of great joy to them, even though it sometimes entails many difficulties and hardships. The fulfillment of this duty has always posed problems to the conscience of married people, but the recent course of human society and the concomitant changes have provoked new questions. The Church cannot ignore these questions, for they concern matters intimately connected with the life and happiness of human beings. I. PROBLEM AND COMPETENCY OF THE MAGISTERIUM 2. The changes that have taken place are of considerable importance and varied in nature. In the first place there is the rapid increase in population which has made many fear that world population is going to grow faster than available resources, with the consequence that many families and developing countries would be faced with greater hardships. This can easily induce public authorities to be tempted to take even harsher measures to avert this danger. There is also the fact that not only working and housing conditions but the greater demands made both in the economic and educational field pose a living situation in which it is frequently difficult these days to provide properly for a large family. Also noteworthy is a new understanding of the dignity of woman and her place in society, of the value of conjugal love in marriage and the relationship of conjugal acts to this love. But the most remarkable development of all is to be seen in man's stupendous progress in the domination and rational organization of the forces of nature to the point that he is endeavoring to extend this control over every aspect of his own life—over his body, over his mind and emotions, over his social life, and even over the laws that regulate the transmission of life.

👉 Making Sense of Bioethics: Column 155: Consenting to Sex 
By Rev. Tadeusz Pacholczyk, PhD         MAY 30, 2018 - Recent news articles exploring the post-#MeToo world of ro­mance have noted the phenomenon of cell phone “consent apps,” al­lowing millennials to sign digital contracts before they have sex with their peers, sometimes strangers they have just met. Many of these apps are being refined to include a panic button that can be pressed at any time to withdraw any consent given. Lawyers reviewing the prac­tice, as might be anticipated, have urged caution, noting that consent apps are not able to provide defini­tive proof of consent, because feelings may “change throughout an evening, and even in the moments before an act.” When we look at modern views about sex, it’s not a stretch to sum them up this way: as long as two consenting adults are involved, the bases are covered. When it comes to “sex in the moment,” consent is touted as key, allowing for almost all mutu­ally-agreed upon behaviors or prac­tices. Yet this approach to sex is fundamentally flawed, and it’s often the woman who is the first to no­tice. Even when consenting unmar­ried couples scrupulously use con­traception, there remains an aware­ness, particularly on the part of the woman, that a pregnancy could follow, and a concern about who will be left holding the bag if that were to happen. Sex between men and women involves real asymmetries and vulnerabilities, with men oftentimes being, in the words of sociologist Mark Regne­rus, “less discriminating” in their sex drives than women, eager to forge ahead as long as there ap­pears to be some semblance of consent. Women often sense, rightly, that consent for a partic­ular sexual act ought to be part of something bigger, a wider scope of commitment. 


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👉 Our Father's Gift of Tenderness is a Healing Gift 
We 
invite you, the reader, to adopt with us our Church’s teaching that our human sexuality is an integral part of the gift of our human life entrusted to us by God, and because He is the giver, He also has a plan for our individual and collective happiness that includes instructions on how to make the proper and best use of all our gifts and capacities. This includes our capacity for tenderness in a whole host of different relationships and varied situations – including all that can be defined as pertaining to our human sexuality. This also implies that before God we all have a responsibility to learn everything that can be known about his plan for us, to govern our lives and actions in accord with this plan, and then to help others to do the same – especially doing all we can to transmit God’s plan to our children – and to provide them with an apprenticeship into life, that they may come to know and understand their sexuality and develop their ability to give and receive tenderness in appropriate and chaste ways.

👉 God's Plan For Life 
The Scriptures reveal that when God designed a plan for life, he used careful and loving advanced planning. In Jer 1:5, God says “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I dedicated you, a prophet to the nations I appointed you.” God knew Jeremiah before he was born. It follows that God knows all of us even before we are born. God's advanced loving and careful plan is confirmed by Rom 8:29-30 where Paul says: “For those he foreknew he also pre-destined to be conformed to the image of His son, so that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.” The same notion of foreknowledge is revealed in Paul’s letter to the Ephesians, 1:3-4: “Blessed be the God and father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavens, as he chose us in him, before the foundation of the world, to be holy and without blemish before him.” Love requires advanced planning. God’s plan for life began before the world was made. 

👉 WHEN TRUST IS LOST 
By Dan B. Allender - 
© 2010 RBC Ministries - Sexual abuse is one of the few crimes that brings more shame to the victim than to the offender. It takes away a person's innocence and self-respect, and usually silences the victim so that help is difficult to find. The wounds and struggles that follow are often as difficult to deal with as the original abuse. Many victims feel alone, confused, depressed, and sometimes as if they are going crazy. If you have been sexually abused, or if you know someone struggling with this problem, the following pages describe a process of recovery that is filled with hope and help. Some of what follows will be difficult to accept. But the pain of understanding and healing is far less than the pain of denial and despair. 

👉 Sexuality, memories, dreams, evil suffered, forgiveness, and God 
Although we often are inclined to wonder whether we are where we need to be, we believe that the Father always brings about his will in those who are open; so we can say that we are where He wants us to be, whether we like being here or not for the moment. It can be said to be a normal experience to have at some point troubling memories or dreams which, though they seem utterly real, may or may not be related to actual events. Such things are part of our condition as human beings. Some people have more vivid dreams or numerous memories than others, and some are hardly aware of any at all; while others are troubled by some of their memories or dreams or images.... Are they real? Are potential witnesses denying the reality of what happened to me or am I imagining the event? 

👉 THE PONTIFICAL COUNCIL FOR THE FAMILY THE TRUTH AND MEANING OF HUMAN SEXUALITY - Guidelines for Education within the Family 
INTRODUCTION - The Situation and the Problem
1. Among the many difficulties parents encounter today, despite different social contexts, one certainly stands out: giving children an adequate preparation for adult life, particularly with regard to education in the true meaning of sexuality. There are many reasons for this difficulty and not all of them are new. In the past, even when the family did not provide specific sexual education, the general culture was permeated by respect for fundamental values and hence served to protect and maintain them. In the greater part of society, both in developed and developing countries, the decline of traditional models has left children deprived of consistent and positive guidance, while parents find themselves unprepared to provide adequate answers.
This new context is made worse by what we observe: an eclipse of the truth about man which, among other things, exerts pressure to reduce sex to something commonplace. In this area, society and the mass media most of the time provide depersonalized, recreational and often pessimistic information. Moreover, this information does not take into account the different stages of formation and development of children and young people, and it is influenced by a distorted individualistic concept of freedom, in an ambience lacking the basic values of life, human love and the family. Then the school, making itself available to carry out programmes of sex education, has often done this by taking the place of the family and, most of the time, with the aim of only providing information. Sometimes this really leads to the deformation of consciences.
In many cases parents have given up their duty in this field or agreed to delegate it to others, because of the difficulty and their own lack of preparation. In such a situation, many Catholic parents turn to the Church to take up the task of providing guidance and suggestions for educating their children, especially in the phase of childhood and adolescence. At times, parents themselves have brought up their difficulties when they are confronted by teaching given at school and thus brought into the home by their children. The Pontifical Council for the Family has received repeated and pressing requests to provide guidelines in support of parents in this delicate area of education.


2- WE RESIST BY PRIORITIZING OUR OWN PLEASURE 

👉 Priests still suffering from effects of Humanae Vitae dissenters, Vatican cardinal says 
“Lead us not into temptation” is the sixth petition of the Our Father.  Πειρασμός (Peirasmòs), the Greek word used in this passage for ‘temptation’, means a trial or test.  Disciples petition God to be protected against the supreme test of ungodly powers. The trial is related to Jesus’s cup in Gethsemane, the same cup which his disciples would also taste (Mk 10: 35-45). The dark side of the interior of the cup is an abyss. It reveals the awful consequences of God’s judgment upon sinful humanity.  In August, 1968, the weight of the evangelical Πειρασμός fell on many priests, including myself,” the cardinal began. 

👉 500 Catholic scholars lash back at Humanae Vitae critics 

Washington D.C., Sep 20, 2016 - Nearly 50 years after the “prophetic” papal document Humanae Vitae, the Catholic Church’s longstanding teaching against contraception continues to promote the human good, said a group of Catholic thinkers on Tuesday. “We hold that Catholic teaching respects the true dignity of the human person and is conducive to happiness,” said hundreds of Catholic scholars in a Sept. 20 document. “Humanae Vitae speaks against the distorted view of human sexuality and intimate relationships that many in the modern world promote. Humanae Vitae was prophetic when it listed some of the harms that would result from the widespread use of contraception,” they said. More than 500 Catholic scholars with doctoral degrees in theology, medicine, law and other fields have signed the document in support of Catholic teaching, titled “Affirmation of the Catholic Church’s Teaching on the Gift of Sexuality.”

👉 Maternal-Fetal Attachment and the Culture of Life - Part One  
By Bridget Campion, PhD - Pregnancy has always been regarded as a time of growth and development for the unborn baby. However, since the later part of the twentieth century, researchers have been turning their attention to the pregnant woman and the effects that this life-stage holds for her. Far from being a time of simply waiting for the baby to be born, pregnancy is now regarded as a period with its own tasks, during which women undergo deep psychological change and development. While much of this is preparational insofar as it serves the wellbeing of the mother and infant in post-natal life, in fact researchers are finding that pregnancy is a very significant time in itself, with women bonding to their unborn children. 

👉 Maternal-Fetal Attachment and the Culture of Life - Part Two 
By Bridget Campion, PhD - 
The first article of this two-part series provided an examination of maternal-fetal attachment, a phenomenon recognized by researchers in which the bond between a mother and her child begins in pregnancy, leading to developmental behaviours that protect both mother and child before birth and prepare them for life after birth. Pregnancy, with all of the growth it entails, thus becomes an important developmental stage for the pregnant woman as well as for the baby she carries. What is the importance of maternal-fetal attachment within the context of a Culture of Life?

👉 Bringing Sanity to Sex: Part I By Karlo Broussard 
February 08, 2017 - Sanity is to see what is (reality) and live in accord with it. If your grandfather thinks leprechauns are jumping in his butter dish and he gives them his butter knife to use as a springboard, then his sanity is defective. 
He mistakes a hallucination for what is real and behaves accordingly. As he tells you about this phenomenon at the dinner table, you probably would invite him to become a citizen of the real world and see reality as it is and live in it. I use this example to prompt the question, “Is there a real world when it comes to sex and our sexual powers?” In other words, is there a meaning to sex that is independent of what you or I make sex out to be? Is there a reality to sex, and thus to our sexual powers, that we ought to reverence and live in accord with? Is there a real world with regard to sex that we could invite someone to live in? Is there such a thing as sexual sanity?

👉 Bringing Sanity to Sex: Part II By Karlo Broussard 
In my previous article, we saw that there is such a thing as sexual sanity, an objective reality with which we need to live in accord in order to be sexually sane. Regardless of someone’s personal motive for engaging in sexual activity, procreation is its natural end. Now, the charge that such a view reduces human sex acts to mere biology might have force if producing children were the end of the story. But it’s not. There is another purpose of sex intrinsic to making babies: the physical and emotional drawing together of spouses. Catholic theology calls these the procreative and unitive dimensions of sex. There are two ways to see this intrinsic connection. The first sees the spousal friendship as finalizing the procreative dimension inasmuch as it makes sex a human reproductive act. The second sees how the unitive is bound to the procreative for the sake of rearing children.

👉 Watch a 20-week baby in utero with new groundbreaking technology 

Abortion, really? - London, England, Jun 6, 2017             When the fetal ultrasound gained popularity in the 1970s, it was hailed as a “window to the womb.” But now, new technology could offer a much more in-depth view of babies before birth. Courtesy of a recent multimillion dollar project based out of London, some parents are able to see clear scans of every movement and organ of their babies in the womb starting as early as 20 weeks, using advanced MRI technology. 

👉 Gradual Shifts in Abortion Laws: Will they be effective? 
One of the interesting developments in the 
area of abortion is a small but real shift in the laws in some States in the US. As we know, Canada continues without a law regulating abortion, meaning that a woman could technically obtain an abortion right up until delivery. The reason is that the Canadian Criminal Code defines “person” as someone who has been completely delivered from the birth canal of his or her mother. Until then, a child is not deemed to be a person, which means that the child has no rights whatsoever. At the beginning of the journey down the birth canal the baby makes it known that it is positioning itself to enter the world, and, as the mother’s contractions intensify, maternity staff prepare to help guide its entrance into the world, intervening only when necessary to aid the process. The feelings of excitement, awe, relief and gratitude that occur when the baby finally appears are intense. Thank God, we say! Thank God, too, for all the personnel involved in safely delivering a new human infant. Everyone present knows this is a baby, a tiny human being, an independent and unique person, yet our law insists that he or she is not legally a person in Canada until “completely delivered from the birth canal.”

👉 HUMAN DECISION SYSTEM 
👉 Reclaim God's Plan for Sexual Health         You are very familiar with the fact that you have an Immune System and a Digestive System, but did you know that you also have what we call a Human Decision System? This remarkable system is centered in your brain and plays a dominant role in every decision you make—positive or negative. Learning how your Human Decision System works, how to harness and direct it—this is the key to your success in consistently making the choices you desire most. Begin today to “reclaim God’s plan for sexual health”, one day at a time.

👉 Why Sterile Heterosexual Acts and Homosexual Acts Are Not the Same 
Karlo Broussard May 10, 2017 - When a homosexual couple are unable to generate children after four years, no one wonders why. That’s because the nature of their sexual activity is not baby-making—it’s not the type of activity that is naturally ordered toward producing children.
On the other hand, a heterosexual couple who, due to age or medical condition or some other factor, cannot conceive a child, do engage in baby-making activity. The genital union that they achieve is the kind of activity that nature ordains to produce children. And if it were not for the unintended (accidental) physical defect, the natural end of procreation would be achieved. So a heterosexual couple’s inability to generate children involves an impeded natural ability, whereas a homosexual couple’s inability to generate children involves no natural ability. To use an example from my friend and colleague Trent Horn, the former is analogous to a paralyzed man who is unable to walk—an external factor is frustrating the achievement of a natural end. The latter is analogous to a man trying to fly by flapping his arms.

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There are facts and truths that the "Gay Lobby" doesn't want society or public opinion to know, that even IT doesn't want to know. To sum up those facts - accumulated in different human cultures and societies - is that we don't need sex to live a full life and be content. To identify oneself on the basis of just the one element of our sexuality is to reduce our human value and dignity. I am a lot more than just my genitalia, and so are you.
Father Gilles Surprenant, priest & poustinik

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👉 On the Importance of Friendship 
By Father John McCloskey - One of the great impoverishments of contemporary American life is the difficulty of forming and maintaining strong male friendships. (Women, on the whole, seem to do much better in befriending one another.) Virtually the only time I see groups of men meeting together regularly occurs in front of a television – at home or at a bar or restaurant – watching sports. Most of the time, these men are primarily enjoying not each other but the game. Now, there is nothing wrong about enjoying sports together or enjoying other hobbies and social activities. An important aspect of male bonding occurs around the pursuit of vocations or avocations. Still, a deeper dimension of friendship often seems missing. 

👉 “ MALE AND FEMALE HE CREATED THEM ” 
TOWARDS A PATH OF DIALOGUE ON THE QUESTION OF GENDER THEORY IN EDUCATION - It is becoming increasingly clear that we are now facing with what might accurately be called an educational crisis, especially in the field of affectivity and sexuality. In many places, curricula are being planned and implemented which “allegedly convey a neutral conception of the person and of life, yet in fact reflect an anthropology opposed to faith and to right reason”.1 The disorientation regarding anthropology which is a widespread feature of our cultural landscape has undoubtedly helped to destabilise the family as an institution, bringing with it a tendency to cancel out the differences between men and women, presenting them instead as merely the product of historical and cultural conditioning.

Canadian Catholic Bioethics Institute - University of St. Michael's College at University of Toronto - 👉 BIOETHICS MATTERS - List of Articles 2007-20 

👉 The absurd logic of assisted suicide 
By Andrew Coyne            If assisted suicide is a right to be released from suffering, how can that be restricted to adults? Are we to condemn children to endless torment? This is not some dire prophecy. It is, as the panel reminds us, the logic of assisted suicide. By making it lawful to euthanize children, we would only be following where Belgium and the Netherlands have led; by applying it to the mentally ill, we would be doing no more than Switzerland has already done. If that is where we want to go, so be it. But let us at least be clear that that is what is really at stake.

👉 Finer points of consent missing in assisted suicide bill  
By Andrew Coyne        Consent needs to be demonstrated, not assumed. That so many seem willing to take it as given is among the more disturbing aspects of this debate. Throughout the debate on euthanasia and assisted suicide, the trump card for their proponents has been consent. If we were crossing lines few societies in history have been willing to cross, erasing distinctions once considered inviolable — between allowing death to take its course and hastening it, between killing yourself and someone else killing you, between pain relief and poison — it was all right, because it was being done with the consent of the patient. Yet, far from demanding that the bill be tightened, the majority of the critics seem concerned only that it should be loosened further: to permit the euthanization of children, for example, or to allow those anticipating being mentally incapacitated in future to make provision for their death in advance — not because they are necessarily suffering now, but in dread of the suffering they believe they will find intolerable in future. Will they, in the event? Might they have changed their mind, if not? Who can say? But their “consent” would already have been obtained. Consent is a powerful concept. But it needs to be demonstrated, not assumed. That so many seem willing to take it as given is among the more disturbing aspects of this debate.

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My purpose in these posts is to bring together significant and, where possible, representative echoes of our best efforts as human beings to make sense of our lives in general - and of our human sexuality in particular - and to also include the voice of Jesus Christ, the one Saviour of the world, and testimonies from his Church, such as through her teaching voice, the Magisterium; given that the Church has been accumulating the wisdom granted her by Almighty God since her foundation at Pentecost. In this way, wherever there is darkness in our human understanding, it will serve to highlight the bright and radiant truth, which is Jesus Christ: "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also." John's Gospel 14:6-7     G.S.

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